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LGBTQIA+ 2w
How do you guys accept ur friend coming out of as trans? My friend recently told me he now uses he/him pronouns but, I don’t know why my mind is sad about them transitioning. Like I guess I worry they’ll change up and not be recognizable as much
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Anonymous 2w

Maybe try and narrow down why you feel sad about it. Im thinking youre trying to get yourself in a supportive mindset but thats difficult for X reasons

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Anonymous 2w

I think this sort of thing is usually pretty tough for people, even with allies. i think a lot of it comes down to openness to change. everyone changes, trans or no. your friend is changing, and so are you. you’ll both keep changing until the day you die (and arguably after that as well, just in a more literal way).

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Anonymous 2w

Sorry for the typos, I’m just trying to process this in private instead of like projecting my confusion onto my friend

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Anonymous 2w

just know that he’s still that person you became friends with, even if he is a little different now

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Anonymous 2w

It can feel like you’re losing the person you know because they will change. I think the argument of “why do people act like I’m a different person I’m exactly the same” just isn’t true. Like in core aspects maybe but transitioning does change a person. That’s like the whole point. It can be hard to process but remember that their core elements are still there

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

I’m all ears

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 2w

transition does change people, to different degrees for different people. for some people it might be really big, for others perhaps not. some fundamental things may stay the same, but giving your friend room to change is the best thing you can do for them.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 2w

and usually, transition changes us for the better. i think it’s really sweet that you’re taking the time to process this rather than projecting it onto your friend. that tells me you’re a good friend, with good intentions. know that it’ll get easier. yeah, it’s a big change, but youll likely adjust with time.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2w

Me when I lie

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 2w

Ok yeah everyone stays exactly precisely the same. That’s why you transition, to be the same

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