
wanna add that you dont need to pick a label off the bat and its okay to change your mind! this is gonna sound controversial but hear me out: labels are tools we use to help us find community and ppl w/ shared experiences, not inflexible definitions we lock ourselves in. anyone who believes that the gayest gay man and the most sapphic lesbian only like their sex is implying that you can id someones gender by looking at them (which we know isnt true)
I was never with a man to figure out I didn’t like them, but for me, I just know bc I don’t have to THINK about if I like women, I just like them and it’s a primal feeling. No thinning necessary. But with men, I would have to THINK about if I liked them or not and when I thought I found a that attractive, it was only bc I was excited about fitting in, I didn’t think about HIM. And it was objectively attractive men, not men I FELT attraction to. Someone can be attractive without you being