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I was told today that my definition of lesbian, “someone who is attracted to non-men”, invalidates genderfluid people. I’m not woke enough for this shit like how else am I supposed to define it be fr
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Anonymous 1d

why do people want to include men under lesbianism so bad its weird

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Anonymous 1d

I’m gender fluid and I honestly don’t feel as though it’s excluding to me 😭 like no it makes sense Im genderfluid in my gender expression personally and that does not make me a man i would hate if we started incorporating men into lesbian identity because of that whaaat

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Anonymous 1d

because a lesbian could maybe like a genderfluid person but they aren’t necessarily a ‘non-man’…but imo who gives af genderfluid people kind of break both lesbian and gay labels let them be the exception idc

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

I KNOW!! omg you have no idea the battles I’ve fought today on this specific issue 😭😭😭 like if lesbianism doesn’t exclude men then wtf is it good for then??? THATS THE WHOLE POINT OF THE IDENTITY

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

« but thats exclusionary!!! » good if i never saw a man again i could die happy

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

and you never hear a peep about gay men “excluding women”, hell when have you ever even heard the gay male identity defined as ‘the attraction to non-women’??? They rarely even include genderqueer people yet WE’RE the mean ones 💀

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

I’m pretty sure the person who brought it up was trying to have a ‘gotcha!’ moment. They weren’t genderfluid themselves 😭 I even said something along the line of ‘genderfluid people are included because they are non-men the same way they are non-women but even if that’s not the case then they can be the one exception’ (and correct me if you think that’s wrong) and they still told me I was being invalidating…AND I WAS GETTING DOWNVOTED TO HELL FOR THAT.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

Men jusg hate not being a part of everything, when something excludes them they whine And some people just love to speak for minority groups theyre not a part of just to have something to fight about and call themselves some kind of knight in shining armor lmao Dont even stress i think ur 100% in the right

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