Anonymous #11 4w

something like this happened to me too, except once my boyfriend didn’t listen to me say no, and he did it anyway and then when they brought it up to him, he told me it was because he got SA’d. men r fucked 😭

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Anonymous #8 4w

literally like what bro???😭😭 i’m so sorry that happened to you honey i hope you heal !!

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Anonymous #11 4w

thanks babe you as well 💗

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Anonymous #10 4w

This too 🫩

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Anonymous #8 4w

Oh what the shit

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Anonymous OP 4w

lol yeah 😭😭 men are SO shitty so i’m so sorry what happened to you

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Anonymous #11 4w

I'm sorry what happened to you too damn

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Anonymous #15 4w

I won't go into what happened to me as my story was very different, but I never did report it because I was afraid of what he would do if I did. Looking back it probably was not the smartest but I was so terrified

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Anonymous OP 4w

I can understand that and I am also sorry that you don’t feel like you have protection from someone like that.. if I knew you in person I would encourage you to report it and have that person prosecuted and I would 100 percent stand by your side every step of the way making sure nothing happens to you. Fact of the matter is he should never be able to do that to anyone else. I live in jersey and if you feel afraid and need a protector moral support and encouragement im here

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Anonymous #15 4w

look, I understand you’re responding to OP with good intent, but reporting and trying to get justice isn’t as easy as everyone makes it seem what matters most to me is that she has her peace and that she heals

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Anonymous #8 4w

Yes I know it’s not easy. I understand that trying to heal and let it go is easier than going through that process. However finding peace can and should start with finding justice and the only way to find that is to go through that hard process

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Anonymous #15 4w

it is not that easy. it’s not that’s easy to leave and him talking her into it is by definition SA. it’s actually written into law.

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Anonymous #15 4w

trust me reporting it isn’t easy. i was raped and abused for 6 months. reported it and went to trial. had screenshots of him admitting it. he had to do community service. that’s it.

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Anonymous #15 4w

that’s not really true at all. I went through a 5 year process and it brought me no peace. it can actually make healing 10x worse.

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Anonymous #12 4w

Ok fine dont report it.. im sorry that it happened and im going to move on from the conversation

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Anonymous #15 4w

it sounds like you don't have a full understanding of sa. coercion is sa. also after that happens you're scared and alienated from her own body, it's traumatic and tortuous, and it's not uncommon to dissociate or freeze, which is prob why she didn't leave immediately. I didn't either, I still got SAd. id advise you'd stay away from claiming ppl "changed their minds" bc that's just fucked up. also the percentage of false allegations is literally under like 5%, so no, it's not a lot of women.

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Anonymous #9 4w

yea u must be the society

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Anonymous c3brus 4w

Thank you queen 🫶

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Anonymous #9 4w

Also that’s just not true not every girl is SAd

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Anonymous OP 4w

Ofc bestie🫶

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They absolutely can and they do. I don’t think a woman would say this statement though

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Anonymous cryinghotdog 4w

adding onto this because yeah, i regret reporting my assault to authorities. it made me regress in healing from the trauma, the case never got sent to court, and i was left with a lot of shame and flashbacks from both the assault and from reporting it. plus, the justice system rarely punishes the assaulter as many victims expect them to

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Anonymous #28 4w

Do tell I’m curious

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?????

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Anonymous #31 4w

:( idek what to say to this

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Not cool

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Anonymous #20 4w

It’s not everyone but it’s a statistical majority

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girl what?!?!?!?! u think ppl js sa ppl because they’ve attractive?! children & babies have been sa’d so why would u even say this?! weird…

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because that’s very insensitive of you to say… so no wonder ppl get mad at you!

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Anonymous #34 4w

Is it really? I’ve never heard that before

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Anonymous #30 4w

there was a study based in UK that showed that it was 99% of women experiencing harassment, assault or further. in america is says 81%. and this is only with reported!

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Anonymous #31 4w

This is actually insane 😭

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Anonymous #27 4w

Not all men, but you do gotta be cautious

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Anonymous OP 4w

I know right??? It’s such a bullshit statement but it’s said as if it’s some kind of argumentable point

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Anonymous dawn_ballet_shoes66 4w

He can't fight us all 🔥

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what specifically do you want to talk abt? u should be able to open up to them abt wtv you want

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just bring it up with them, tell them you say things that people often find insensitive and ask for help

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ur sick!!! if literal babies/children get 🍇 are u assuming they were attractive?!!🤨

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Anonymous cryinghotdog 4w

THIS. i wanted to report my sa, but it was complicated. i don’t know how long it occurred and didn’t accept that it happened until months later after escaping him. without going into detail, my ex and i were under the influence and i didn’t consent — i essentially regained consciousness and ran away. cases with established partners are easier to disregard, plus i couldn’t fathom my family finding out with the circumstances. it makes me sick that he works with others daily.

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Anonymous #38 4w

Not every girl is SAd

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Anonymous #20 4w

but most are which is sad

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Anonymous #11 4w

Yeah well most is not every so don’t just say false stuff like that

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Anonymous #20 4w

i mean i didn’t say that lol but im agreeing with you that it’s not every girl

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Anonymous #11 4w

Sorry I thought you were the original commenter, and I also overread the ABOUT every girl part. I just read every girl

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Anonymous #20 4w

lollll you’re so okay 😭😭🩷

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Anonymous #36 4w

No bitches

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Anonymous #23 4w

Hahah wowwww so funny I bet this will get you all the chicks!!! 🥺

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Anonymous #39 4w

that’s alr, i don’t fw yall anyways

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Anonymous #36 4w

So you’re gay?

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Anonymous cryinghotdog 4w

5% is still a statistic. I was one of the 5% who got accused of rape just outta high school when I was 18. Fucked my life up. Just bc the odds are low doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen

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Anonymous #40 4w

I did hear a story of this. She accused him of it and got him kicked out of college and put on the registered sex offenders list. She later admitted that nothing actually happened. That part of it is so horrible, I'm sorry that you have to deal with the same sort of thing. No part of it is okay.

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Anonymous #30 3w

the entire point is that SA is so normalized that what may be considered harassment or SA happens to just about every woman in her life

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Anonymous #39 3w

Who hurt you

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Anonymous #40 3w

that’s horrible and im sorry that happened to you. im saying that it’s problematic when people make generalizations about women making things up because for the overwhelming majority of situations that’s not the case. but your experience is valid and i hope you’ve been able to heal since then

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Anonymous #47 3w

What does that mean, I don’t understand

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Anonymous #30 3w

Sounds like you’re saying he made it sound like you were there to be sexually assaulted again but you made it sound like a verb you’re doing. Odd structure to a sentence to me

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Anonymous #36 3w

Kill your self.

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Anonymous #48 3w

yourself is one word

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Anonymous #36 3w

Bro doesn't know how blocked comments works. The phrase all together wouldn't get posted silly lil rapist

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Anonymous #48 3w

don’t post it ig

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Anonymous #36 3w

Nah I will because you should.

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Anonymous #30 3w

sorry i was rlly high when i typed it😭 i mean he was there for me after it happened (or so it seemed like it) and then he sa’d me

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