Sidechat logo
Download TikTok Instagram X
Sidechat icon
Join communities on Sidechat Download
Icks icon
Icks 4w
Guys asking you out then asking u what to do Fuck u mean
comment

21
upvote 142 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous 4w

How dare we want to know what u wanna do 😭😭

upvote 49 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous 4w

You guys ask us to communicate better and then when we do so we can get better outcomes you get mad?? Catch 22

upvote 15 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous 4w

May a man never find you

upvote 12 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous 4w

hot take but regardless of gender if you asked someone out, you do the research. obv get to know them first and ask them what they like but you are responsible for it. once in a relationship, split that planning because it’s a joint effort and you’re on the same team helping each other grow.

upvote 11 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> #1 4w

Ur supposed to suggests/plan things if ur the one asking to hang

upvote 15 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> #1 4w

The problem is ur trying to assign the task of planning a date to the person you've just asked on a date. [IN MY OPINION] That is how it comes across. Like you're interested enough to ask, but not interested enough to put in any mental effort.

upvote 35 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> #3 4w

Idk I think you’re just going to any extent to justify this. He most likely wants to hear if you have any thoughts. It’s only a problem when you say that you don’t know and then he doesn’t try to figure it out.

upvote 13 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> #4 4w

Please consider coming up with a plan for the date you initiated, then share your plan. That's communication. "How about we go to Place 1 and then walk to Place 2?" = perfect "Whats the plan for tonight?" = making her plan the date because you dont want to

upvote 6 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> #3 4w

So is saying “what places do you like to go to?” when you’re considering drinks or food for the date

upvote 14 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> #3 4w

Which option would you prefer: A: Dude takes you on a date that you would’ve never picked, you have a bad time. B: Dude asks for your input, he places value in your opinion, he takes yall there. You have a great time.

upvote 19 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> #1 4w

I think you're overestimating the care that other men in this world put into planning their dates 😭

upvote 23 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> #1 4w

This! My gf and I joint plan dates because why tf would I waste time and money to do something that she doesn’t enjoy? Idk what restaurant/ bar/ activity she wants do any given day

upvote 7 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> #3 4w

I only have myself for reference 😂

upvote 6 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> #1 4w

Option B is what my first example is! If I hate the idea, I will say so. Please just come up with SOMETHING. What the original post is talking about is: Option C: Dude invites you on a date. Asks you what the plan is. Asks you what location you want to visit. Asks you how much is parking. Asks you what the plan is afterwards. All valid questions on their own, but all I can see is a future where this man asks me about every single thing because he doesn't plan ahead.

upvote 5 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> #3 4w

Actually let me not put words in OP's mouth. That's what I'M talking about. Guys who want to go on a date with you but then refuse to make any kind of decision or do any of their own research

upvote 10 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> #3 4w

Preachhhhhh 👏exactly what i meant

upvote 1 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> #3 4w

I see. So the problem isn’t asking for your opinion it’s just making you plan the entire thing

upvote 1 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> #1 4w

Yes. PLEASE come up with SOMETHING.

upvote 11 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> #5 4w

Def agree 👍

upvote 8 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

“Supposed to” fuck you and all those entitled white bitches. None of you are worth doing shit for.

upvote -2 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> #6 4w

Why’s bro so upset. 😭 if you’re a guy asking a girl out, you should plan the date and do research about the place you’re going to, that’s the bare minimum

upvote 18 downvote