I’m a military kid it’s kinda been drilled into me to do so sorry I was just trying to be respectful

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i genuinely never knew until today that people get mad if you refer them that way…it’s basic respect 😭😭😭

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I work at a chilis and ive been raised to use maam and sir regardless of age so ive said to some of my female coworkers and they almost always respond with dont call me maam im not that much older than you and im like it aint gon nothin to do with age its just respectful 😭

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i use maam or sir when trying to placate customers like i’m sorry they’re literally evil and im just trying to get buy 😔

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Also if you don’t like being called that you can just say so without getting shitty about it like you know damn well people are just trying to be polite

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For younger women (like 35 and under) I like to use Miss instead of ma’am. Ma’am seems to have some negative connotations to it. But I’ve never heard a dude be upset with being called sir

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People in CA get so pissed like sorry I was raised in the south god damn

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I often get called ma'am when I prefer sir so that’s a bit frustrating but it's usually just people trying to be respectful, idk why you'd get mad at the person if they didn’t know

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I'm mostly of the opinion that the first time someone calls you something you don't want to be called, the burden is on you to politely tell them you don't want to be called that. Then if it happens again, the burden is on them to apologize and not do it again.

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