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yall are prolly gonna hate this. but. not all men are rapists. not all men want to hurt you. not all men give enough of a fuck about you to give you the time of day.

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Anonymous 2w

No one thinks all men are rapists and that they will all hurt them. The issue is that it’s extremely difficult to tell until they’re already in a dangerous situation (man catcalled them and they refused their advances and are now being threatened with violence for instance), so the best policy is caution in all or most interactions with unfamiliar men. Not currently in the headspace for a discussion on this so hopefully either I will be tomorrow or someone else will pick up the torch for me,-

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Anonymous 2w

all the men i talk to just wanna fuck

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Anonymous 2w

“Not all men” but statistically it’s gonna be a man.

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Anonymous 2w

Not all men, but most men

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Anonymous 2w

Not a hot take. Everyone knows it’s not all men. That’s not revolutionary or anything. It’s not all men but it’s ENOUGH men that women have to be constantly on guard.

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Anonymous 2w

this is why we can't stand men, because of ignorant takes like this.

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Anonymous 2w

literally nobody thinks that. that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be cautious of everybody.

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Anonymous 1w

Well this is a true statement but I'm a little confused about the point of it. Who's really saying it's all men? And if you have seen people make blanket statements like that, what they likely really mean is 1. it's often safer for women to assume that any man COULD be a rapist for their own safety or 2. rape culture is a systemic issue linked to the patriarchy that shouldn't just be framed as a few bad apples

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Anonymous 2w

The broad cultural rise of women being afraid all the time is deleterious to everyone: women have the burden of needing to be tense to feel virtuous (and yet violence etc still occurs), men feel increasingly unwelcome and unwanted (some take this badly...to say the least)..... If you watch 90s media people just casually flirt and banter and no one feels the need to be on guard all the time

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Anonymous 2w

Facts

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Anonymous

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honestly i really hate the words im about to say because i stg im going to sound right leaning but im lowkey tired of the snowflakeisms and the victim culture that has spread rampant through the world. everyone is always constantly on alert because either 1. everyone thinks someone is out to get them, or 2. believes that everyone else believes that they are out to get someone. no one is allowed to generally be nice anymore without being accused of being a “freak” “rapid” “danger”

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Anonymous

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when in reality, your shoe is untied. i opened the door for you as we were walking into the same establishment, i told you to have a nice day.

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Anonymous

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-but I felt like I had to give my input regardless

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Anonymous

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first says: “not all men” then proceeds to say: “but basically all men in any situation…but i’m not in the headspace to talk about” baby you just don’t want to feel like you didn’t make any sense or just made a circular argument because what are you talking about?

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Anonymous

OP 2w

I didn’t say that, I said women have little way of knowing who’s safe and who isn’t until they’re past the point where unsafe men would stop putting on a safe facade. So, it’s safest to be cautious of all unfamiliar men. That is not saying all men are dangerous

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No man. Listen, if a dog bites you, you’re going to naturally be scared of dogs. Does that mean that all dogs are bad? No! There are plenty of warm, loving, loyal dogs out there. You might even adopt one. But there’s going to be that initial fear when you don’t know if the next dog you see is one of the “well behaved” ones or one of the “dangerous” ones, because you’ve experienced both and it’s hard to tell at first glance.

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Anonymous

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comparing humans, a species that has evolved to develop emotional intelligence situational awareness, to dogs is not a fair comparison. dogs are heavily influenced by their direct surroundings. unless you socialize your dogs and work that prey instinct out, yeah your dog runs the risk of being more dangerous than a dog who is heavily socialized.

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Anonymous

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I think you’re just a dumbass, that was a perfect analogy they gave.

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Anonymous

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They are comparing the fear of dogs to fear of men. They aren’t comparing dogs and humans. Logic better.

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Anonymous

OP 2w

Look, it doesn’t even matter what’s more dangerous on average. The same analogy would work with any other animal. What matters is the uncertainty that you get when encountering something that has hurt you in the past. It’s the feeling of thinking, “Is this one of the ‘good’ ones, or one of the ‘bad’ ones?” Which would naturally make you cautious (NOT hateful) by default. And sometimes you THINK it’s one of the good ones until time passes and they do something to betray your trust…

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