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Hot Takes 15h
People with herpes should be removed from the dating pool. Herpes should be stigmatized. It lowers your value as a partner. I was watching some “educational” sexual health videos and I could not believe how they are trying to normalize it. It is gross
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Anonymous 12h

They don’t need to be removed from the dating pool. They just need to be honest about their status. I don’t agree with takes like these because it makes people with herpes feel ashamed and hide their diagnosis from their partners. I know a girl that has herpes and she has a lot of casual sex and never tells the guys she is HSV+ because she’s embarrassed

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Anonymous 14h

As much as I agree about 20-30% has HSV2 and damn sure minimum 30% has HSV1 (cold sore/fever blisters)

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Anonymous 9h

my bf gets cold sores with weather change, whats that mean?

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Anonymous 15h

Seriously, they were making it seem like herpes is just another thing you can have like asthma. It’s should not be normalized

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 14h

Life ruining

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 14h

HSV2 is absolutely, but cold sores most people get them

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 12h

how is hsv2 life ruining 😭 people with genital herpes can have active sex/dating lives when taking the proper precautions

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 12h

and if you’re not just referring to sex, they live regular ass lives just as anyone else would

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 12h

lol no, undatable. The vast majority of people would not want to be with someone that has it.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 12h

Genital herpes is very much life altering and definitely in a ruining sense. HSV2 doesn’t only have to occur in the genitals, it can have a much harsher oral presence if one was to experience cold sores. It’s also is heavily stigmatized and that is both unfortunate and harmful to people with it but also very concerning if someone failed to mention their status to a new partner which can result in them being attacked but also difficultly finding partners willing to take the risk.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 12h

we have very different definitions of life ruining when it comes to a manageable condition. mentally i’m sure it sucks to get diagnosed with, but people with hsv2 live normal lives just like those with hiv due to advances in medicine

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 12h

Life ruining doesn’t always have to be mean, hey you are dead. Life ruining can also be a case of extremely social pressure. In a sense it is life ruining in a sense, you will live with this forever like HIV/AIDS but also you have to make the decision to admit to future partners about your status which will cause difficulties in relationships. Unlike #3 friend who is a shit person, if a partner were to find about said status and not from you they could sue for risk and emotional distress.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 12h

they can still have sex and have relationships!! yeah it sucks that some people may not want to date them because of it, but a majority of people with hsv2 lead fulfilling love lives

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 11h

I never said they couldn’t, but it does make having relationships more difficult and tricky to navigate because of the HSV2. How many times do you think they have to put themselves out there and deal with the constant noise of being ghosted or rejected because of stigmatization. Good for those who do find someone who is willing to love them regardless but some people are fucking vicious and do out them. Unfortunately it is not vast majority.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 11h

again i think this comes down to differing definitions of life ruining. i can agree with life altering though since taking medication everyday is a bitch

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 11h

Yeah man, you have yours I have mine. Some people think their life is ruined after failing an exam, I guess there’s levels to life ruining experiences.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 11h

agreed. life altering, yes. life ruining, no. people with herpes are still able to have fulfilling lives. they even have dating apps for people with herpes that can make dating easier.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10h

Why not? If proper protection is used, how is it wrong for it to be normalized?

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 9h

Stone him /s

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