That’s one of those things where it varies from person to person. I learned about the term through its origin of being an actual diagnosis so to me it’s offensive because I see it as ableist. Some don’t care and even refer to themselves as such because they fit the term diagnosically. Since there’s such a varied response to the word it’s best not to use it in general unless in private with someone who’s expressed that they don’t find it offensive like yourself.

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This is a slur against neurodivergent people, especially autistic people, since it targets neurodivergent traits. That wasn’t its origin, but that’s where it is now. You can, instead, just say idiot, stupid, dumbass, or any other non-slur word or combo of words. There’s no need to use the r slur

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That's fine. No one is ever required to be offended by anything. You should be glad that something that's a problem for others isn't a problem for you. However I feel like this sort of thing is usually presented as a pick me take. I hope you don't use the fact that you're not offended to invalidate the people in your community that are.

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I am actually mentally ‘tarded and I honestly don’t care. 99% of the time it’s not actually being used in that way anyway, at least not in my experience:

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