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Hot Takes 10w
Hot take. You should definitely be loyal in the talking stage.
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Anonymous 10w

Sad that this is a hot take because I wholeheartedly agree

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Anonymous 10w

isnt the whole idea of the talking stage that you aren't exclusive yet? sorry but like you can't expect loyalty when you arent actually in a relationship, you need to communicate that if that's what you're looking for. and at that point it's not really the talking stage anymore cuz you defined the relationship

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Anonymous 10w

Yeah like???? Wym you’re still “shopping around” when you said you want to actively build something with me?

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Anonymous 10w

Only if that’s the terms you both set, if not they don’t owe you shit

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Anonymous 10w

i think if you’re actively talking to someone you shouldn’t start talking to other people- if you’re serious about the person you’re talking to

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Anonymous 10w

I agreeeeeeeeeeeee

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Anonymous 10w

What’s super crazy is. I only talk to one person at a time. And I communicate that to people. And they agree. But later go back like “we aren’t in a relationship so we shouldn’t be exclusive” 💀 you wanted a relationship with me. What changed buddy

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 10w

The whole point of a talking stage is to build a relationship…. If I can’t trust you while we’re talking, how can I trust you in a relationship? In my opinion, if I’m talking to somebody, we’re building a relationship.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

Exactlyyyyyy

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 10w

The talking stage is to build a bond with that person not fuck around with him her him her and all the other people in the world

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

so tell them that? my point is that isn't what talking stage means for a lot of people & you can't expect others to know that's what you mean by it unless you communicate that. someone might be trustworthy in a relationship but if they don't think you're in a relationship you can't assume they'll be loyal.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 10w

Ummm you should already know that? Why would I talk to someone just for it to go nowhere, that’s a waste of both of our time, I shouldn’t have to hold your hand and tell you” we’re talking to build a relationship” that’s literally the whole point of the talking stage

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

exclusivity is not an automatic expectation in the talking stage. you should communicate that exclusivity is a priority for you. since you're building relationship you should be prioritizing communication imo

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 10w

THANK YOU!! I really hate wasting peoples time and I hate people wasting mine

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

I’m someone that has deep attachments to people (demiromantic/demisexual). If we’re building something serious over months and months, and then you bail because you’re chasing hypothetical better options, that’s painful and feels like my investment in the relationship wasn’t valued. Like bruh lmao

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