
people who do SH don’t paddle themselves lmao. please don’t mix those two together. sadism is about having control and inflicting that control. they enjoy the pain their subs go through because they know their sub is enjoying writhing in pain. safe words exist for a reason. it gets into unwell territory when consent gets overridden. i can agree with you to a certain extent but it’s unfair to put that blanket statement on a kink you clearly don’t know much about lol