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I’m hooking up with this guy he’s 25 and I’m 19, is that weird? I mean he says he loves that about me but idk lol
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Anonymous 1w

Translation: he’s a pedophile and he would go younger if he could

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Anonymous 1w

No weird because you’re both adults, it’s weird because he says he loves that about you

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Anonymous 1w

Yeah it’s weird. It’s really, REALLY weird

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Anonymous 1w

it’s weird that he loves that abt you out of all things???? ur an adult so do what u want but be weary/careful

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Anonymous 1w

Dude…

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Anonymous 1w

25 is that age where people start getting married, you’re barely coming into adulthood so yes it’s really weird considering the difference in maturity levels and stages in life

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Anonymous 1w

i’m 23. i felt like a creep hitting on a 20 year old. do with that info what you will

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Anonymous 1w

As a 25 year old, I would never go out with a 19 year old. You’re just starting your adult life, you’re still planning for your 21st birthday. Idk it’s just weird

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Anonymous 1w

I do think it’s weird that one of the things he LOVES about you is that you’re 6 years younger than him …..

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Anonymous 6d

clearly you didn’t actually want people to tell you that yes, this is weird, you just wanted people to tell you it’s okay (which it’s not, coming from someone who used to be in the same situation)

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Anonymous 1w

yes it’s weird, especially if he says he loves you when youre just hooking up

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Anonymous 1w

YES THATS WEIRD PLEASE PROTECT YOURSELF

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Anonymous 6d

I was seeing a guy who was 24 while I was 18. Looking back on it now at almost 21, I can’t even imagine myself with an 18 year old. The maturity difference is A LOT. If it’s your age that he likes most about you, I’d definitely say that’s a super red flag.

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Anonymous 3d

Queen you gotta get out😭

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

Wha

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 1w

Not*

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1w

Why tho

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

6 years at your age IS a big gap regardless of what anyone in this thread is saying, and the fact that he likes you young means he likes someone more naive, with less experience of what is normal in adult relationships, someone who he has a power imbalance over

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

You’ll figure it out the hard way. I can’t tell if you’re genuinely curious about learning why that guy is creepy as hell

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

I’m 26 and it’s hella weird. You can’t even legally drink yet. Casual Sex with an older partner is one thing but a romantic relationship is not good

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Anonymous 1w

And she’s 19, not 9. Two adults.

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 1w

Two adults is not the same as two equals. You’re not seriously insinuating that a 19 year old and a 25 year old are of equal, or even similar maturity, are you?

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 1w

I feel like it’s important to say, I’m 22 and even I wouldn’t date a 19 y/o

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1w

Giving the amount of 25 year olds who have the maturity of a middle schooler, yeah, it’s entirely possible they are of similar maturity

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1w

yeah you’re right, I bet at 19 she’s still MORE MATURE than he is!

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 1w

Pedophile is used to describe attraction to prepubescents. Please use the term correctly or don’t use it

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Anonymous replying to -> #13 1w

Yeah that weird me out

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Anonymous replying to -> #16 1w

You are literally still a teenager, you just got out of high school that is SO creepy

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Anonymous replying to -> #12 6d

You’re intentionally missing the point. He has fully developed executive function, she does not

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Anonymous replying to -> #12 6d

Do not defend this wth?

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Anonymous replying to -> #14 6d

Yeah I get that. He is def giving predator rn and I wouldn’t be surprised if he was a pedo

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Anonymous replying to -> #18 6d

ugh exactly, everyone telling her how messed up this is but she’s ignoring them, bc she never actually wanted feedback she wanted validation. It’s sad, and unfortunately she’ll realize it too late. “i’ll get older but your lovers stay my age.”😗

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Anonymous replying to -> #18 4d

How do you know what was my purpose posting this? I don’t need validation I wanted people to help me out lol

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Anonymous replying to -> #17 4d

Stfu lil niga

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Anonymous replying to -> #15 4d

Well now that’s on you cause it’s completely legal wtf

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4d

someone saying “dude..” clearly implying it’s not okay, you say “wha”, someone saying it’s “REALLY weird” you saying, “why tho”, someone saying he’s a pedophile and would go younger, you previously saying “he’s 25 not 40” (men MUCH younger than 40 can be pedophiles, you’re just fulfilling harmful stereotypes). you’ve not replied to a single comment intending to have an actual conversation about this, and not seeming to appreciate any of the helpful, advice filled comments.

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Anonymous replying to -> #18 4d

leave this man if you actually gaf about your safety, if not then have fun fulfilling a pedophiles fantasies.

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Anonymous replying to -> #18 4d

U my opp now, like I don’t see the problem all we do is hook up

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4d

again, clearly you didn’t actually want advice if you’re gonna call someone answering your question on if this weird or not an opp 💀

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4d

In time you will see why it’s gross. I hope you see before you learn the hard way

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Anonymous replying to -> #20 3d

I like him so muchhhhhh

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3d

it’s hard to move on but your gonna look back and regret staying with him

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3d

Ngllll if you’re gonna stay, then you must be spoiled financially and with gifts, never satisfy his kinks, never fuck raw and document everything in case he does abuse you then you have documents to prepared for a report.

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 3d

Her staying is a problem because he IS going to abuse her

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 3d

He spoils me a lot and we’ve been dating for 3 months now, but he doesn’t let me meet his parents or wants to meet mine I hate it

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3d

BRUH THATS CAUSE HES A CREEPPPP both your parents are gonna know that that’s why he’s not letting you meet his or want to meet yours

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3d

probably because he’s scared of someone calling him out for being a creepy 25 year old dating a 19 year old, if i had to guess

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3d

Sounds like he isn’t doing enough

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Anonymous replying to -> #18 3d

Lolll ik you’re so right but I’m in love 😪

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3d

Love conquers all

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 1d

Pedophilia≠love He would and will go younger

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

Love is not spoiling. It’s little things. He is using you please wake th up! You need to respect yourself more he is not the only person you will ever meet. You will meet someone your age who actually loves you for who you are and you’ll have a wonderful like with that person.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

You aren’t in love you are being manipulated. You are “in love” with a version of him that doesn’t exist. Stop letting his manipulation control you and get yourself out before he baby traps you, ruins your life WORSE than you can imagine, or kills you. YES it is that serious. Don’t date anyone before you have respect for yourself and know how people should be treating you. Do not look at people with rose-tinted glasses, look at them for who they truly are. Never settle for people.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 21h

this post has gotta be ragebait bc there’s no way someone would read these responses and still think they aren’t in danger

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