
Oh that's respectful and communicative, he's not giving you and order and saying "I won't sleep with you if you don't do x" he's saying, "hey I have body hair preferences, do you? I'd be happy to accommodate yours as well" he's meeting you halfway AND communicating, that's the difference - a dude
That's valid as fuck but it's playing games a bit, just be communicative about this up front, like this should all ideally be spoken about before sex. You shouldn't need to test someone's response. If you don't trust their response and need to test them then you probably shouldn't let them put themselves inside you yk?