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A person I was hooking up with lastyear recently came out as transgender (mtf), and she recently text me asking if I wanted to resume our relationship, and I said no, she didn’t like that answer and now I have mutual friends calling me transphobic
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Anonymous 20w

I have no idea where to put this but just wanted to put it out there, good for her that she’s growing and becoming who she wants to be, but i’m no longer attracted to them, I feel like that isn’t a personal attack, she says she’s a girl, she presents as a girl, I like men, no i don’t want to resume our relationship.

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Anonymous 20w

?? the friends calling you transphobic are weird and getting involved for no reason, and the person wanting to resume the relationship can’t handle rejection.

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Anonymous 20w

irl actual trans person here: you’re not transphobic and in fact if you as a straight woman or gay man wanted to continue dating someone who is openly trans thy would be more transphobic

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Anonymous 20w

I’m trans and she’s cringe, you literally like men. you’d be a chaser if you were wanting to still date her 😭

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Anonymous 20w

Trans guy here- not transphobic. You’re recognizing that she’s a woman and you’re not attracted to women 🤷🏻

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Anonymous 20w

thats literally the opposite of transphobic hello?? 😭

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Anonymous 20w

That’s crazy cause you not wanting to resume the relationship BECAUSE you’re not attracted to women is the opposite of transphobic 😭

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Anonymous 20w

calling you transphobic for essentially confirming her gender identity is crazy

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Anonymous 20w

People like this are why people don’t take actual transphobia seriously

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Anonymous 20w

Congrats to whoever came up with the “you’re a bigot if you won’t sleep with me” scam. Sheer genius.

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Anonymous 20w

Also, crazy maybe, but the fact that you aren’t attracted to her anymore is the highest compliment, because that means she is viewed and seen as the woman she is!!

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Anonymous 20w

I literally??? Had this exact thing happen to me 😭

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Anonymous 20w

top 10 things that never happened. stop spreading hate

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Anonymous 20w

W

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 20w

Yes I fear you’re just being shamed by her best friends doing what best friends do and that’s ignore all logic for their bestie. You’re not transphobic, you’re attracted to men and she’s a woman now.

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Anonymous replying to -> #9 20w

What hate?

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Anonymous replying to -> #9 20w

One would fucking think, yeah, unfortunately not so in this case. Not spreading hate, nothing in my post was hateful. Just getting a really absurb situation out there because I mentally cannot cope.

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Anonymous replying to -> #11 20w

This isn’t transphobia though

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Anonymous replying to -> #10 20w

That’s what I mean. Claims like they devalue what is actually harmful to trans people

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Anonymous replying to -> #11 20w

oh okay. i get what you mean

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Anonymous replying to -> #9 20w

it happens dawg. it happened to one of my friends who’s also trans. there’s assholes in every space, even if it’s uncommon.

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Anonymous replying to -> #11 20w

Idk if it can all be blamed on this. A lot of people already want to ignore transphobia

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