Anonymous #1 10w

it might have been meant that way but it's a weird way to say it, i don't even like when my mother says i have birthing hips and i certainly don't like it when a man says it. like he's saying a have good hips to give birth. it's weird, especially after the first time we ever had sex. especially since i'm currently experiencing a pregnancy scare and he's the only one i've been with. it's weird.

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Anonymous #1 10w

nah saying that to someone unprompted is weird, ppl commenting on my body like that always makes me uncomfortable

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Anonymous #1 10w

those types of compliments are always make me hella uncomfortable as it makes me feel like a vessel... i don't want my body to constantly be associated with babies/motherhood as if it's my purpose- or otherwise assumed that childbirth is something every woman will do and wants

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Anonymous #3 10w

YES i couldn’t figure out how to explain it but thats why that comment specifically gives me the creeps. like im not an intubation chamber, im a person

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Anonymous #5 10w

then why not phrase it like “your hips are attractive” rather than “you would be good at giving birth”

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Anonymous #6 10w

idk find the person who made the phrase and ask them. a lot of attraction has to do with qualities that make reproduction and child rearing feasible with a partner. we just don’t talk about it like that because we pretend we are very socially-refined animals who have evolved past intrinsically being attracted to physical features that suggest higher odds of successful reproduction.

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