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Guys, he asked me to make it official today, I said yes, I was gandering through his phone and saw he messaged 3 girls that he “couldn’t see them anymore”, and to “not contact him anymore”. And I really do not know if that’s a green flag, or a red one…
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Anonymous 4w

It’d be a red flag if he told you that he wasn’t talking to anyone else during that time and you saw those messages today. But if you guys never had that early stage convo about dating, it’s fair game and a grey area

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Anonymous 4w

You guys weren’t officially until today so, I guess you guys were not monogamous before today. And that’s just dating. If that turns you off tho, it’s valid to dump over that

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Anonymous 4w

You gandering through is phone is a very big red flag 😬

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Anonymous 4w

help.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4w

*his

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4w

it’s not like i was actively looking for anything, my phone was dead and i was bored. If someone touching your phone is a red flag, i fear you’re the red flag.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

Why were you looking through his messages?

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 4w

i wasn’t, I was on instagram and i was sending a post to myself.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

How exactly did that lead to looking at not just one of his message chains but three?

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 4w

…When I was getting out of my text thread…His messages were there…I fear that’s not hard to understand.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 4w

Yeah, it just threw me off when I saw it because he was the only guy i was talking to at the time. But I understand we weren't "official" and exclusive up until now, and I hadn’t mentioned anything about it, l've talked to him about it, everything is good between us :)

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

Sending posts on instagram doesn’t require you to open messages

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