Anonymous #1 22w

i can easily finish myself w toys alone but we’ve never done anything with toys tho i have wanted to try i just always forget to ask or it’ll put a pause in the sexy vibe if that makes any sense so that causes it to be left out and forgotten until after we’re done and im like ok that’s that we clean up and watch youtube or get food

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Anonymous OP 22w

and thank you 🙏🏾. next time i see him ill try to be braver about asking him to try using toys to see if that helps

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Anonymous OP 22w

Toys can help! Foreplay is awesome! Switch things up showerrrrrr is so funn (;

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Anonymous #3 22w

There is a way to finish from penetrative sex you just need enough wetness and attention! Its a very fun time when it happens (;

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Anonymous bigdarkcherry 22w

not everyone can finish from penetration. i need both. it’s hard for me to finish from only external too

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Anonymous #3 22w

yeah i feel like that might be the situation im in. i think imma try to talk to him irl next time i see him tysm for ur advice!!

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Anonymous #4 22w

i usually have no idea how big or small guys are but even he said it’s small and i will say it’s definitely not even 6”

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Anonymous OP 22w

of course <3

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Anonymous #6 22w

what?

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Anonymous #5 22w

i feel like if i bring up the thought of me wishing he were bigger would make him feel embarrassed or insecure about his true size and i don’t want to do that (im a a big people pleaser lol) 😓. do guys get embarrassed if a girl asks them about trying ways to make their size bigger????

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Anonymous OP 22w

Yes

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Anonymous bigdarkcherry 22w

i’m confused 🤔

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Anonymous OP 22w

I’d paint it as, “I love you as you are, but this is a fantasy of mine I’d like to try. It doesn’t have to be every time, but maybe we can try it?” Helps to alleviate that you love your mans but want to try kinky stuff

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they said they’re not sharing it because of personal reasons, and you still decided to ask

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BIG BOY RUFFFFF

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Anonymous OP 22w

Ouch

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Anonymous #5 22w

thank you! that’s a really good way to word it i was having trouble thinking of how to do so!

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Anonymous #3 22w

thank you 🥹🫶

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Anonymous #3 22w

if a girl asked for that would guys think it’d be like a slap in the face??

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Anonymous OP 22w

it could be, but it’s about the pleasure you guys want to feel together. not egos

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Anonymous #3 22w

true, i just don’t want to make him be insecure of his size bc ik they can’t control how big or small it gets. can any guys attest to if they’ve felt like this before?

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Anonymous OP 22w

I can tell you it does not feel good to have a girl bring up wanting to add toys to increase or use a giant horse cock dildo. My ex did that and I DO have a 6”er. Maybe give him a viagra to give him a really good erection.

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Anonymous #4 22w

I think if you introduce enough stuff into the fold and you’re kinky enough, it’s not an issue. Bring up his fantasies too! Work together! You’re a team and it’s not a problem to want to maximize each others pleasure :)

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Anonymous #4 22w

thank you and oof i’m sorry you had to go through that 🫶. I brought up using a vibrator next time and he said we could try it. I think if it doesn’t work with the vibrator, my next potential move would be a cock sleeve I just don’t want to hurt his feelings. I wouldn’t want anything too crazy just a little something to make him more in the average/slightly above average. as some positions that i like don’t really work for us due to his size

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Anonymous #4 22w

introducing toys isn’t about you not being enough. most can’t finish just from penetration. it’s just how our bodies work. some of us aren’t very sensitive too. it takes a lot to orgasm if you have a vagina

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Anonymous #3 22w

here’s part of an abstract from a study they published in 2018: “While 18.4% of women reported that intercourse alone was sufficient for orgasm, 36.6% reported clitoral stimulation was necessary for orgasm during intercourse, and an additional 36% indicated that, while clitoral stimulation was not needed, their orgasms feel better if their clitoris is stimulated during intercourse.”

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Anonymous OP 22w

please let him know that this is completely normal. i wish sex ed was was taught 😓

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Anonymous #3 22w

omg the research 🙌 THANK YOU!! i’m hoping that next time i see him and we try it with toys it’ll be better for me and we won’t have to think abt a cock sleeve (even thinking abt bringing it up w him makes me nervous) 😅

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Anonymous OP 22w

of course, baddie! you’ve got this <3

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Anonymous #5 22w

i fully support using sleeves, but isn’t that a bit dishonest to frame it as a fantasy?

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Anonymous #3 22w

Using the sleeve isn’t malicious or morally dishonest if you’re just utilizing it as a way to explore with your partner. Sleeves are surprisingly easy and versatile, resulting in the same heightened enjoyment just like utilizing toys is just extra stimulation. OP wanted a little something more, and that’s understandable to test out. Experimentation and open communication is key 🙌🏻

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Anonymous #5 22w

i was first to recommend using sleeves in this thread. i’m not against them. i’m just saying that presenting it to him as a monster fantasy when all they want is to feel more is a little misleading. i’m sure if he ever found out later, it would he humiliating. it’s always best to be honest upfront. more trust —> much better sex

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Anonymous #3 22w

exactly. i’m not gonna say it’s a “fantasy” of mine but probably along the lines of “i was doing some research and i found this device that helps men in this category and thought maybe we could give it a try? and if it doesn’t work for us then that’s ok :) we’ll find another option”

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Anonymous #3 22w

Oh I totally understand, I didn’t consider it from that lense as I usually see all these monster sizes. No shade on your or OP! I entirely see where you’re coming from and I fully agree.

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Anonymous OP 22w

Real! Exactly.

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Anonymous #5 22w

all good! 😊

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Anonymous #5 22w

it’s okay. i’m sure your advice would be perfect for someone who actually does have a monster fantasy

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Anonymous #3 22w

I was just meaning huge sized penises overall, I just call them monster sized cocks, but you’re so right 💀

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Anonymous #9 22w

me too. i was nervous about posting it and people being mean but everyone was so nice and supportive. they all gave such great advice it was so sweet. thank you :)

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