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so i went on a date last night and he told me he’s not looking for anything serious which i’m like ok, we were doing shots in the car before going into the bar and he kept making me do more so i was getting tipsy. the date is going fine we are both 1/2
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Anonymous 23w

This should be reported

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Anonymous 23w

a little drunk, when we are heading back to the car he’s getting more touchy and then he pushes me down to give him head. i start giving him head but ik in my head i don’t want to do this so when we get to the car he’s making me give him head again and i do it for a bit but then i back off and i’m like “no i don’t want too” quite a few times and pulling my hands off him (he keeps trying to put my hands and head back down tho) and it’s not till i’m crying saying i don’t want to that he 2/3

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Anonymous 23w

finally backs off and then he’s like “i’m sorry i didn’t think you were being serious i know most girls like cnc” which i’m happy he acknowledged it wasn’t ok and i’m just like “it’s fine let’s go get ice cream” (that was the whole date plan to go to bar then ice cream) and i just didn’t want it to be awkward bc i was having fun before all that happened. BUT his ass takes me home instead and was still pushing me for more head on the way home and now i’m sad and uncomfortable

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Anonymous 23w

Yeah, that’s assault and that guy needs rehabilitation

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Anonymous 23w

i’m so sorry this happened to you. also what’s cnc mean?

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Anonymous 22w

i am so sorry this happened to you. nothing that happened is your fault and don’t feel that because you didn’t say no when it first happened that it makes it okay. assault is a hard thing to process, and if you want to confront the situation than go ahead and do just that!!! if you don’t, that’s okay too. do what you need to feel better and comfortable

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 23w

nobody should ever assume that someone is into something. ESPECIALLY CNC. that is totally out of line and i’m so sorry that happened.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 23w

i really hate this say this but this was assault and coercion

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 23w

Consenting Non Consent. It should be prediscussed but basically, depending on the scene and preference, there’s a fictional struggle/forcefulness/lack of barrier.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 23w

yeah it definitely was and i’m trying not to think about it too much but it just sucks bc everything before was so going so good

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 23w

yeah i’m just scared tbh i don’t want there’s to be issues

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 23w

that was the issue though.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 22w

He definitely just used cnc as an excuse to assault you, especially since it’s meant to be CONSENSUAL non consent

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 22w

i agree and i really want to confront the situation

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 22w

i asked if he wanted to talk abt it and he said he didn’t want too :/ ive blocked him now but him and the situation have been on my mind nonstop the past week

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 21w

aw man it’ll take a bit to feel good again, but do what you can to heal. journaling helps a lot or sometimes talking out your feelings on a voice note as it just gets the emotions out. i know you can heal from this and come out stronger!! 😕🩷

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