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Gym 1w
how take but i can’t help but feel like there’s less of a point in trying to get in shape since i have bad genetics (namely a chest gap, long femurs, and a relatively high calf insertions). i’m probably still not going to like my body no matter what i do
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Anonymous 1w

Sometimes it’s about perspective. Rather than putting value on aesthetics, you can value that your body is capable to get in shape/ able to move your body. The end goal being not what you will look like but how will you feel

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Anonymous 1w

OP, you’re just making excuses to not do the work. I did that too but when I started doing the work I wound up looking good.

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Anonymous 1w

I have bad insertions. when I put on more size they were less noticeable and I started having more fun getting stronger rather than focusing primarily on looks. yeah social media sucks to watch and feels like everyone’s jacked with perfect bodies but go out into the real world and notice how much better and stronger and healthier you look than 90% of the population

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Anonymous 1w

hot**

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Anonymous 1w

-just like i do now, not want to wear less layers or have my shirt off just like i do now, and feel bd about myself compared to guys online just like i do now

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

what capability is there to value if other people are also capable of getting in shape, moving their body, and having a more aesthetically appealing body? at that point, i really wish i could feel good despite that, but i don’t think i can

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

Comparison is the thief of joy. You can have that mindset, but you won’t be any happier I guess it’s either “doing nothing and feeling bad” or “doing something and finding the strength to push through the bad”

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

Yk with this mindset and following up with lack of body movement, you’ll feel the consequences as early as your 30’s. Mobility is very important for an independent life

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

This

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1w

no i’m not. you got to have insertions that didn’t make you insecure, i can’t definitively say the same

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

i get that maintaining mobility is important, but it honestly feels like it’d be difficult to appreciate it if i don’t like my body

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

If you’re worried about insertions you’re overthinking and making excuses.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

How old are you?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

22

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1w

the whole point was to be able to get to a point that i don’t feel bad about my body. if i have bad insertions, which would obstruct that goal, then… for example, my calf insertions are relatively high and so they barely grow and i literally don’t like wearing shorts. that will likely never change

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

You’re young and ngl as someone with social media, I do think it’s harmful to see all these fitness influencers always promoting their life style/ products on young people. Idk you but I believe in you and things take time. You seem pretty down about this tho, maybe talking to a professional or meeting with a gym coach can help. I’d even suggest not changing your mindset (right now) but find something you like to do with your body

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

Like I suck at boxing, stamina and form n all but I’m still keeping at it cuz it feels good to throw some punches and listen to music

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

thanks for the encouragement. i have tried speaking to a professional (and even had a personal trainer for a bit of time), then also tried other sport activities (bjj and climbing), but not much luck with any of that

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1w

in the real world i feel like i see people with better insertions than me still tbh (at least for calves). i also admittedly didn’t have much faith that i’d actually change the way i feel about my body if i were to gain muscle since i might not like the way it looks

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

Continue to get that help. Maybe even follow useful fitness influencers. I’ve seen a guy who worked on his calves and it paid off. You’re still learning a lot about your body at this age, give yourself some compassion and patience. Do what you love. Maybe watch JOJO bizarre adventures for inspo on inner strength

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

is it even worth it anymore if my mindset hasn’t changed at all after what i’ve tried so far? plus for the calf things, what were the guy’s insertions like? if they were low, i wouldn’t be surprised if he were actually able to grow them

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

Your effort and time is valuable and always worth anything, but one person on the internet cannot convince you of this. Seek help and live out your potential. And idk, I b doom scrolling

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