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Gym 4w
How do I ask someone what they’re looking for on a dating app without asking them directly
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Anonymous 4w

"The last person I was with wanted ... and I wasn't really into that" "My friend met this person that was looking for ... but both me and them want something similar and it's DEFINITELY not that" "What's your take on... I think it's kinda crazy when..."

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Anonymous 4w

What's wrong with asking directly?

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 4w

A couple people I've asked directly get weird about it. They act like asking what they're looking for in a relationship means you're getting super serious when you just started chatting

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 4w

Yeah unfortunately I feel like directly asking nowadays isn’t “rizz” or whatever the kids are calling it

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

That's fair, I don't get the nonchalant thing and I've had my therapist ask if I've considered whether I could be on the spectrum so I'm probably just overly direct with this kind of thing

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