Gym on Sidechat | Got asked on a date at the gym today. Almost had to kill myself in from of him to get him to stop trying to convince me it was a good idea. Pls learn to accept defeat.

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Gym 24w

Got asked on a date at the gym today. Almost had to kill myself in from of him to get him to stop trying to convince me it was a good idea. Pls learn to accept defeat.

Anonymous 24w

I once saw a video of a woman on some podcast saying men need to be more persistent when asking women out and to not take no for an answer, sounds like the poor guy took it seriously 💀

Anonymous 24w

studies show most women expect men to initiate and expect a level of persistence after the first rejection, we can never win 🫠

Anonymous

#1 24w

Hopefully after our interaction today he realizes that is a TERRIBLE way to go about it💀😂

Anonymous

#1 24w

Men need to listen to less podcasts 😂

Anonymous

#4 24w

to be clear i’ve never hit up a woman at the gym i honestly think that’s the absolute wrong environment, however it is challenging how we’re both expected to initiate and absolutely fried for doing so if we’re not perceived as perfect

Anonymous

#4 24w

“Hey! *cute small talk pertaining to the activity* so, I think you’re really pretty, is there any way I could get your number? No? That’s alright! I hope you have a great rest of your day!” Rejection absolutely sucks but handling it well shows maturity and THATS attractive

Anonymous

#3 24w

you’d think that but then you hear things like “i wouldve given him my number if he put some pressure but i said no once and he walked away like what” (story from a friend of mine) and it’s a bit confusing :/

Anonymous

#4 24w

I think those are just women who want to be chased. And I don’t think most are actually like that. When I am repeatedly saying “I’m not dating right now” “I’m not interested” and straight up “no” it should be obvious that I don’t want you to persist

Anonymous

#4 24w

I also think it’s crappy of women to expect any man to continue to go chase after her when she already said no. It gives the wrong idea and almost seems like taking advantage of someone’s interest in you just for some attention.

Anonymous

#4 24w

That’s on her then and she should learn from that. In general, women don’t want men to push. I personally haven’t heard a woman say she wants a man to push when he’s asking her out. (Not saying there aren’t women out there like that!)

Anonymous

#3 24w

maybe i just have the wrong female friends, but ive heard it more times than any other perspective. from women, not men speaking for women.

Anonymous 24w

the entire point is the lack of clarity. 3 and OP seem to understand the nuance here

Anonymous

#4 24w

Despite what your female friends say, I would still approach a situation like that or ANY situation with no means absolutely no. You never want to make anyone uncomfortable. Like 3 said, I personally have never heard another woman in my life saying she wants men to persist after saying no. So I think it is much less common than you are lead to believe.

Anonymous

OP 24w

oh dw i quit approaching women in public years ago the ROI is below the floor. DMs are 10000x better, have landed me way more dates, and give a way easier way for girls to reject you (never answering) without being afraid of how you’ll react

Anonymous

#3 24w

People need to make fewer podcasts honestly, almost none of them have any value

Anonymous

OP 24w

and also, why would you as a man want to date someone who plays those games?