Anonymous #2 4w

How to you think people truly wouldn’t be sexually compatible? Sexual comparability definitely does NOT mean you’re meant to be in a relationship, but if you’re in a relationship and find eachother attractive, what do you think wouldn’t be solved with communication, or you wouldn’t find out beforehand?

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Anonymous #1 4w

Saying you need to have sex with someone before considering a relationship is one of the dumbest takes I’ve ever seen, but a very real one, and typically used by men to get laid, and now some women have become compliant in that🥴

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Anonymous OP 4w

you just read their post wrong on purpose im screaming

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Anonymous OP 4w

oh i didn’t even see you responded to this LOL i said this in the other comment thread

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Anonymous #5 4w

Test driving to see if it’s what you want is what I have a problem with. Y’all are not reading my post and clearly haven’t dealt with men using that verbage to pressure women into sex

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Anonymous OP 4w

If using a metaphor PRESSURES you into sex you need to be in a Home

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Anonymous #6 4w

also it’s a metaphor. obviously i don’t think women are vehicles.

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Anonymous OP 4w

if a guy wanted to see if we were into the same shit and called it a “test drive” I’d think he’s a cornball not an abuser

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Anonymous OP 4w

you asked like every person who commented how they could be sexually incompatible… and now suddenly it’s the phrasing you have a problem with?? okay

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Anonymous #6 4w

I like to think women can be vehicles. I'd prefer to be a Porsche like Sally but I wouldn't be opposed to being a Mater type truck

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Anonymous #1 4w

i would be a porsche 911 GT3 RS

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Anonymous #6 4w

I'd have to drop the RS cause I need that six speed manual 💔💔

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Anonymous #6 4w

im a bus with the accordion connection or a paddle boat

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Anonymous #5 4w

Omg articulated bus mentioned ❗️

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Anonymous #1 4w

i love wiggly bus❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️yayyyyyy

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Anonymous #2 4w

I don’t think y’all grew up around misogynistic mindsets, no hate to the OP who I don’t think meant it in that way, but that’s what that phrase is used for. The phrase refers to this idea that you couldn’t put effort into someone unless you consider the sex good, and that’s part of where their worth to you comes from.

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Anonymous OP 4w

You're too woke

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Anonymous OP 4w

it is not your obligation to put effort into someone. if you are totally the opposite of your partner you shouldn’t be with them and that ESPECIALLY includes sexual stuff. if im a very vanilla person and someone tries to force me into experimentation im not “negotiating” with that!!!!!!!!

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Anonymous #2 4w

In terms of being sexually incompatible, which is the excuse the phrase uses, the idea that people in a healthy relationship might just have bad sex forever is dumb. If you live that person, or in the beginning just really like them, you can figure it out. Basic chemistry obviously needs to be there but that’s what entices sex in the first place, after that it’s largely communication, unless it’s like literally a pillow princess and a man who wants to be dominated who are very set on those ideas

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Anonymous #2 4w

Then communication is more than capable of working those things out.

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Anonymous #1 4w

this isn’t even woke this is like. what even is this

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Anonymous #5 4w

It's like post woke idk 😭

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Anonymous OP 4w

I ain't reading allat

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Anonymous #1 4w

I’m being called both tradcath and too woke, ya’ll don’t realize this is a “good old boy” saying to pressure women into sex with little to no commitment. The idea that women are an option and you’re just looking the lot, rather than actually falling in love with an individual you would also like to have sex with.

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Anonymous #1 4w

LOLLLL

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Anonymous #5 4w

If you’re in a relationship, it’s most definitely your obligation to put in effort. That doesn’t mean changing someone, that’s not your job, but putting in effort is like the basis of relationships.

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Anonymous OP 4w

Humans only exist on this plane as sex organs, how's that

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Anonymous #1 4w

You realize like, literally all social pressure, comes from words yeah? And people do in fact get pressured into sex, especially women, when it’s equates to their worth in certain circumstances?

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Anonymous OP 4w

you don’t see sex as integral to relationships, and for most/many people, it is. if that doesn’t matter to you that is fine, but finding someone you don’t hate fucking is kind of necessary for marriage.

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Anonymous #5 4w

Seeing if you’re into the same things, especially if it’s casual, is whatever. Saying you won’t be in a monogamous committed relationship until someone agrees to sleep with you is bad.

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Anonymous #5 4w

women “test driving” by having relationships is good and healthy. men objectifying them is not, the application of the metaphor here is not directed at women, it is being directed By Women. READ!!!!

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Anonymous #5 4w

Relationships aren’t based off of sex, and when they are, we have things like the modern day divorce rate, and before them, women just couldn’t get divorced. I think the fear of falling in love but having one of the worst sex lives ever is extremely exaggerated.

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Anonymous OP 4w

except that’s not what this convo is about? this convo is about sexual compatibility before marriage. like yes the phrase has problematic origins but you are cutting off your nose to spite your face by (only now, i guess) choosing to focus on that instead of the actual topic at hand

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Anonymous OP 4w

> modern day divorce rate holy what a self report

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Anonymous #2 4w

focusing on the vibe of the statement as opposed to what is actually being said

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Anonymous #5 4w

literally completely changed topics as soon as she actually got an answer on how people could be sexually incompatible 😭😭

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Anonymous #5 4w

EXACTLY what I said too

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Anonymous #6 4w

Porsche mentioned 😩😩 I’d do anything for a vintage 911

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Anonymous OP 4w

I'm nothing to this world but a hole 💔😔

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