Anonymous #1 1w

been there done that

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Anonymous OP 1w

has it not helped at all? the only way to get over trauma is to build the mental fortitude to face and overcome your mental obstacles. and this is only achieved with becoming mentally healthy either through your own mental strength and will power or assisted strength like with therapy

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Anonymous #2 1w

i mean it helped to like talk abt it and be able to hear that it wasn’t my fault bc i blamed myself for a while. but like idk i feel like the only way to get over it is exposure therapy atp. like i can be near my guy coworkers bc im friends w them but its when it turns to relationship that scares me

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Anonymous OP 1w

i mean though you don’t have any rush to get into another relationship, and that is what dating is for. you can kind of scope out who might be compatible and healthy for you while who might not be, and it’s okay not to be compatible with everyone. there also might be subtle red flags people give off, and you can ask questions that might gauge what they are like so you can see their intentions early and stop something before it gets too far. it can be easier said then done, but those are some

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Anonymous #1 1w

things you could consider

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Anonymous OP 1w

i’m no professional but i would say be comfortable with more male friends first before you try exposure therapy on dating or hooking up. because that is never a fun road. you’ll be less afraid of going into relationships with a guy friend who you already feel comfortable with rather than just having shitty “boyfriends” and flings. but don’t set your expectations too high 😂 even the good guys can turn out to be shitty just hopefully never to the level of shitty you experienced before though

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Anonymous #1 1w

i mean i’m not rushing at ALL but like imma be 20 next week and im the only one of my friends who doesn’t have a bf n i just guess it’s gets old after a whole yk? like i want that. but i know my limits and sorta what to look for but i appreciate the help sis ty💕

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Anonymous #2 1w

haha yes for sure i have a couple coworkers in hella comfy w and i have thought of starting as friends before dating. and im ngl my bar is low so its fine😭😭 but tysm for the help girl i appreciate it sm💗

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Anonymous #3 1w

yea i feel like that could work. atp imma just force myself to talk to men😭

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Anonymous OP 1w

It can get really fun!

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Anonymous #3 1w

i’ll try it queen thanks u boo😚😚

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