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Ngl it kinda makes me feel bad that people only compliment your hair when it’s straight or in braids as a black woman. It feels kinda disingenuous
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Anonymous 2w

Black women with Afros are so underrated. It reminds me of those stained glass panels in churches where the biblical figures have that round halo over their head

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Anonymous 2w

I get it’s like a different style so maybe ppl are complimenting the effort you took to change your look but ppl are significantly nicer in a way that feels like my natural hair isn’t appreciated an it don’t like that personally

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Anonymous 2w

I’m mixed so it’s a bit different but natural hair is so pretty

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Anonymous 2w

Lmao it’s so annoying and honestly I wear my hair in twists or a twist out most often (3c hair) so when it is in braids or I had it in a bun the other day and ppl compliment it. When it’s my friends I honestly think it’s cause they j haven’t seen me with my hair in other ways so they’re seeing the ‘effort’ I’m putting in to make it look different. Or maybe to better match a white hair style. Might be genuine, might j be acknowledging it looks diff or better

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

I know this isn’t the same thing but I’m a white woman with pin straight hair and people only ever compliment my hair if i do something with it like curl it, so maybe at least part of it probably is the effort. But I know I can’t speak for you and the being nicer part. But I do feel like people treat me as more put together and like I put in more effort when I don’t leave my hair natural straight down and do overnight curls (I’m looking for a job and I swear they seem to like that better)

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2w

Idk I feel like even ignoring the compliments aspect like being able to just wake up with your hair and have it be acceptable to general society is something I’ll never experience. Even though you get more compliments with curly hair your straight hair is till seen as more acceptable. You don’t really have to alter it or worry about styling it a certain way to get like interviews or be treated with respect if that makes sense you know?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2w

Not to say that’s your fault but I think it just shows that texturism (hair discrimination) is a lot deeper than ppl think it is

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

I do completely agree with that part

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 2w

Like when I think it’s genuine I do appreciate the compliment, but I sometimes wonder if ppl don’t like my hair natural or if they don’t feel like they can comment on it so they don’t say anything.

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