Anonymous #1 9w

I haven't kissed anyone in years since my SA and have panic attacks when teachers make adjustments to me in workout classes. I feel scared to try to make any romantic connections to people my age because I'm scared of being used for sex again. It's extremely isolating to hear my friends talk about kissing strangers at bars and going on casual dates when I know it would be incredibly overwhelming for me

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Anonymous #1 9w

I see your point. What prompted this was watching the slomw reunion today. Most of the women have been SA’d at one point and openly share how they struggle with intimacy issues with their partner. They just all got so much sympathy and understanding. But every time I open up or mention that SA can also result in hypersexuality, I’m called the worst names. Like my ex friend out of nowhere slut shamed me for my past with hypersexuality over a small disagreement. Ppl just don’t buy it

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Anonymous #1 9w

Yes i understand how you would also be made to feel bad about your self from the other side of the spectrum. I’m so sorry you had to go through that and the isolation that comes from being different than what you’re “supposed” to be like

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Anonymous OP 9w

Thank you. I’m sorry your friend treated you that way, that's not fair at all. I’ve had friends tell me how they go through ‘hoe eras’ and it kind of pisses me off that we’ve been conditioned to shame women so much for having sex that my friends feel like they need to call themselves derogatory names before someone else can do it to them

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Anonymous #1 9w

Obviously no shame to my friends for using that word however they want, but women having sex openly is not something they should be shamed about. Idk your friend’s issues, but picking and choosing which survivors you want to support based on how they're coping is absolute BS. I’m honestly surprised that the women in SLOMW were even able to talk about it since I know Utah Mormon culture often blames victims instead of supporting them if the incident happened in the church

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