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Girl Talk 19w
To any men lurking here, the girly working 40+ hr/week paying for her own hair, nails, rent, car insurance, gas, and food is NOT gonna be the soft, feminine woman you want her to be!!
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Anonymous 19w

the idea that femininity is incompatible with self sufficiency and that softness is incompatible with labor are both fundamentally anti feminist ideas

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Anonymous 19w

i am a soft and feminine but also independent and self sufficient woman!! these things can go hand in hand!!

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Anonymous 19w

i am all of these things and a soft feminine woman ✨

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Anonymous 19w

We have very different definitions of soft

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Anonymous 19w

They understand that but like the challenge of trying to “conquer” and change you

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Anonymous 19w

Let me take care of you mami. U working too hard.

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Anonymous 19w

i also think associating femininity with naivety and softness or caring with weakness are very much hegemonic patriarchal ideas of gender and womanhood

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Anonymous 19w

you can be “soft” or embrace femininity without it making you weak, less independent, or more prone to being taken advantage of. femininity is not and should not be defined by patriarchal abuse

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Anonymous 19w

I meant if a man wants access to me he better start paying some BILLSSSSSS

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 19w

I agree femininity should not be reactive to the patriarchy

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