Girl Talk on Sidechat | hot take: as women we sometimes put too much emphasis on being chosen by a man. it’s not an achievement or a success to be “chosen” or be in a relationship. relationships should be a happy addition instead of your whole life and sense of worth

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Girl Talk 1d

hot take: as women we sometimes put too much emphasis on being chosen by a man. it’s not an achievement or a success to be “chosen” or be in a relationship. relationships should be a happy addition instead of your whole life and sense of worth

Anonymous 1d

Agreed. Although it does sometimes feel like an achievement when a man chooses you if you’ve liked him for a long time etc, but generally yea best to focus on yourself and a good relationship will eventually come along

Anonymous

#1 1d

Girl…. it’s not an achievement regardless

Anonymous

#2 1d

Why? What’s so bad about being happy that you’re chosen? We all want to be wanted, and yes they’re an unhealthy level to it like codependency but overall why not?

Anonymous

#1 1d

it’s a beautiful thing, but it’s not an achievement. now if it’s an achievement to you, great but not what we should be teaching girls as a whole. because that’s suggesting the opposite is a failure, which leads to centering men and that’s how you get the pathetic posts you see in here.

Anonymous

#2 1d

True. I guess that word has a negative connotation. Seems like that idea is dying out with the older generations which is nice.

Anonymous

#1 22h

it can be an achievement to be in a happy fulfilling relationship. i think it’s overkill to say we can’t act like it’s any form of an achievement. centering men comes from years of conditioning and i agree that it’s not an achievement to have a man pick you but we simultaneously shouldn’t shame women out of being happy to be picked or in a relationship. i don’t think that’ll fix how much they center men.

Anonymous

#3 22h

it’s an achievement to you. and that’s okay.