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waiting until marriage sounds sweet.. but IMO if u have NO other experiences to look back on, u wont know what good sex/ a good relationship really feel like. ur going to put up with more bullshit bc u dont know any better what do yall think 🤔
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Anonymous 2w

i get what you mean but if both people are waiting until marriage then they learn together i guess

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Anonymous 2w

does it matter if you don’t know what “good sex” feels like? there’s not much you can’t learn together or from advice. and if it’s good enough for you, it doesn’t matter if it’s “good” or “bad.” and making mistakes while learning together is part of the intimacy.

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Anonymous 2w

i think it only works if sex isn’t very important to both people. i could very easily do this and even if the sex WAS bad i wouldn’t really care

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Anonymous 2w

It’s the reason why a lot of guys want virgins, they can be horrible at sex without the other person having something better to compare it to

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Anonymous 2w

as someone who’s *probably* going to wait for marriage i don’t have to have sex with someone to gauge sexual chemistry and if you have the chemistry that’s all it takes. I can tell with certainty if he has good dick or not by other things and I’ll neverrrr be in the dark about how big it is so 🤷‍♀️ a loving relationship doesn’t require sex btw so no it doesn’t mean you’re more likely to put up with bullshit either. the women in this pissy ass dating pool are the ones putting up

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2w

i can understand this, but i still do think the lack of experience can make them accept more mistreatment

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 2w

which ig kinda defeats the purpose bc if it wasn’t important they probably wouldn’t wait

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

I agree with you, i just think what i said is the mindset of a lot of people who are waiting until marriage. I feel like people should be taught what is mistreatment/ and or abuse that way they will know what is okay and what isn’t

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 2w

even if sex isnt in the picture, having past experiences dealing with conflict, disagreements, and collaboration is important

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 2w

sex isn't THAT important to me, but it still has to be good- if someone is bad at sex i wouldnt want to be with them💀 i'd rather be single

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

maybe i missed something but what does sex have to do with working through conflict?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

also yeah that’s fair, i just don’t really care about it lol if my partner was bad i’d be fine not doing it

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 2w

the topic is ab a lack of romantic experience setting ppl up for mistreatment- which includes no sexual experience AND no relationship experience, meaning less experience working thru conflict

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

ohh okay, i thought we were just talking about waiting until marriage for sex. yeah it would be a pretty bad idea to marry the first person you get into a relationship with

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

sexual experience ≠ relationship experience tho so idk if it’s fair to equate them

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 2w

i'm not trying to equate them, just saying that having experience with BOTH can help someone establish better expectations & boundaries. i hope this clears up what i'm trying to say

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 2w

chemistry isn't all it takes imo.. peoples preferences, kinks, habits, attentiveness, skill, etc are all factors.. and how can you tell "with certainty" anything if you've never actually confirmed it by ever having sex..?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

i def think having experience can help but it’s not always necessary. like i’ve personally never had sex but i don’t think i need to have that experience to know what my boundaries are yk?

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 2w

i agree to an extent. yes, you can have boundaries without having sex, but it wont be a complete picture. thats like having an idea of what china is like without ever having lived there. sure, you can research and use common sense, but first hand experience is VERY different. do you get what i mean?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

yeah definitely! i agree that firsthand experience is very different than literally anything else lol, ig i just disagree that you NEED it to avoid being treated badly

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 2w

we kinda agree! i dont think you absolutely NEED it, but it DEFINITELY helps lol ty for sharing ur thoughts!

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 2w

and yes, you should be in dialogue with your friends or in good spaces online to better learn what you want, what you need, and what to expect, since that’s how you stay safe, healthy, and happy. having a conversation with your partner beforehand is also necessary, especially regarding consent and safe words. but, again, having sex in the past isn’t objectively good for the present. it’s up to your preference on what’s best for you.

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