Anonymous #2 4w

Update! He ignored the check in text I sent at 5 hours until it had been 6 hours, then only responded to one text from earlier about food I was making with my dad with “GIVE ME [dish name]”. Nothing to “what are yall getting up to today?” Nothing to “babe?” Or “just checking in, I miss you” — nothing but those three words. He knows it bothers me when he leaves me on delivered for hours and when he only responds to 1/5 of my texts. We’ve talked about it 15+ times. He tries for a day and then-

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Anonymous OP 4w

Gives up. I don’t even know what to do at this point. I don’t think I’m gonna respond until he can give me more, hopefully acknowledging that he fucking knows he did multiple things that upset me without even addressing it or apologizing for it. It’s been months of this. I just feel really taken for granted at this point. But I’m supposed to see him tomorrow 😐

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Anonymous OP 4w

Not to mention when I bring it up his first response is always “you’re always in some bullshit” and/or “I’m not doing this with you rn” until he eventually calms down and says he’ll do better. Then it lasts for a day. We’re coming up on a year together and he hints that an engagement is sooner than I think (not for a while I think, I’ve told him not until I graduate at least), but idk how to tell him I don’t want a husband who acts like this in a way where he’ll actually get that it matters and

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Anonymous OP 4w

That I’m not a given! I’m not stuck here! I can LEAVE! And I’m sorry y’all I don’t mean to dump on you (and tbh I meant to respond to the thread as a whole, I’m sorry if I’m spamming you #2 😭) I’m just so frustrated I had to rant

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Anonymous OP 4w

Honestly you might hate this response but if you’ve had to talk about this 15 times and he responds calling it bullshit, I personally would have ended that relationship a long time ago. You’re right when you say that you shouldn’t be with someone that takes you for granted.

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Anonymous #2 4w

I’m kind of at the point where I think that if a friend of mine showed me our texts and said it was a situationship and asked if I think he wants to date her, I would say no. It’s difficult because he is lovely and was lovely for months while he was in bootcamp (he’s a marine 😭 and he sent frequent letters and responded to fucking every point that I said), so it’s just. Idk fucking confusing as shit. I have mental health issues I’ve been egregiously treated for and he definitely has some of the

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Anonymous OP 4w

Same as me and some I cannot relate to but can easily identify so I told him I’d be willing to stick through while we work through our shit. Sometimes it just feels like I’m working through mine and he grows more and more therapy averse because of the military. Some of this shit he does I know where it comes from (past abuse, etc) but he lacks self awareness much of the time. It’s not so easy to end it when he is my favorite person and I’ve never felt so connected to a person when he is open…

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Anonymous OP 4w

I’m sorry I’m spamming again it’s just. I’ve had some trauma and he was the first time I’ve ever felt like I did before it. It was miraculous. It has been years and only he has made me feel that way. And then he stopped trying. And I know I won’t find it again. I just want someone to love me the way I love them because not to be big-headed but I give him so fucking much and he used to be so surprised and grateful and now he says I look “cute” when I send him photos. If that makes any sense maybe

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Anonymous OP 4w

I’m crazy.

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