Girl Talk on Sidechat | People without strict parents rlly live in a different world than the rest of us 😭 I complained about something and this girl said "Have you tried talking to them? Tell them you're an adult and deserve to be treated like one." Actually laughed out loud

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Girl Talk 11w

People without strict parents rlly live in a different world than the rest of us 😭 I complained about something and this girl said "Have you tried talking to them? Tell them you're an adult and deserve to be treated like one." Actually laughed out loud

Anonymous 11w

I love when people complain about strict parents on here and people respond acting like they need to leave their family immediately

Anonymous 11w

it really sucks that not everybody has that kind of relationship with their parents. my parents gave me independence and responsibility at a young age but have always made it known they are there for me. not to control me but to help me. i feel like im a better well rounded person because my parents let me be in control of my life.

Anonymous 11w

I feel frustrated sometimes being the opposite person. Some people as a teen envied me for having a dad that let me do whatever I want.. meanwhile, I was lowkey jealous of them😭 It messed up my development but all I could think was “why can’t he just be a dad? Why doesn’t he care where I am? I just want him to care.”.. the grass isn’t always greener on the other side ig

Anonymous 11w

When I say that to my mom, she actually does laugh at me, I’m 24

Anonymous 11w

Exactly. Ppl just can’t comprehend that my parents were *that* controlling and strict

Anonymous 11w

My friend came from a very strict household and I was a free bird since middle school. She was jealous until she found out the backstory I was severely abused by my mother then she died and my dad didnt care about me for a while. He didn’t keep me safe. Felt as if he forgot I existed. I was neglected that’s why i was able to do anything no parents I parented myself. Even though I didn’t have a strict parent I was alone even with all the friends I had. I never want to feel that type of lonely

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Anonymous 11w

I only started to get treated like an adult after I got married 🫩

Anonymous 11w

It’s lowkey frustrating because I can’t just talk to my parents or break their rules or “put my foot down” as many have suggested but they just don’t understand that it’s not me being a coward it’s literally that my parents are just that strict 😭😭

Anonymous

#1 11w

One time I told ppl on here I was closeted and plan to be for a long time and I had like 7 people responding to me telling me I needed to “choose myself” and “choose happiness” because my family must be the worst humans to ever exist if I couldn’t come out to them

Anonymous

#1 11w

OH and one time someone did a similar thing to me bc I said I had a curfew of 11 when I’m home with my parents… like babe that isn’t crazy I live in a rough area

Anonymous

#1 11w

REALL like of course I wish I had a more lenient relationship with my parents, but I don't! And I still WANT a relationship with my parents, flawed as it is. Personally I will never come out to my family cuz I value our relationship over any kind of "be yourself / live your truth" messaging.

Anonymous

OP 11w

I value my relationship with my parents, but I’ve discovered with all the toxicity and conflicting moral values that I NEED time away from them so that I can be myself. It’s tiring putting up a facade 24/7, but I could feasibly put up with the facade for like a weekend. Like I’m not gonna cut them off, but I am going to move out when I can. But I think it’s important to “be yourself/ live your truth” bc if you aren’t doing that, then how true are your relationships with people?

Anonymous

#7 11w

If they don’t know who you are as a person, bc you have to hide it, then how much of a relationship is that really? Like I get your point but you shouldn’t have to sacrifice who you are to maintain a friendship with anyone

Anonymous

#6 11w

Omg yes! Exactly!!! I just wrote my experience too below you

Anonymous

#7 11w

I mean sure, but my only options are A.) have a family while closeted or B.) have no family while outed. There is no secret better option for me. Everyone in this situation needs to weigh the pros and cons on their own & I've decided on option B. And whenever I tell people about it they try to convince me that I'm choosing wrong 😒

Anonymous

OP 11w

Lol typo, i meant I've decided on option A

Anonymous

#7 11w

See but to me it’s not friendship. It’s family and I have different expectations. My family may have a lot of views that I do not agree with but I understand the way they were raised. They support me very well otherwise

Anonymous

OP 11w

I’m not trying to convince you that you are wrong. Only you know the best decision to make. I just worry about people damaging their mental health in order to keep family. People either jump to completely cutting off family or completely changing themselves to fit their family. And both are extremes. Usually there’s a middle ground. Like moving out but still being in contact.

Anonymous

#1 11w

You misunderstood my comment. Also friendship was a typo I meant to say relationship. It’s not a real relationship if you don’t actually know each other.

Anonymous

OP 11w

Also I’m completely closeted from my family too so I understand your options A and B. I’m not dismissing that, which it seems like you think I am