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My bf knows I’ve got SA trauma and when I’m stressed have a hard time communicating and saying no, but I don’t think he understands the extent of it because there will be times when i say no that he pouts at me and acts sad until I change my answer
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Anonymous 2w

I had the same experience. My best decision was to break up with him cause I’m not dating a stupid child who doesn’t understand basic empathy at most, or the literal definition of no at least. It was annoying to date someone who doesn’t consider your perspective ever.

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Anonymous 2w

clearly, a man that does not respect you and does not respect your space, you deserve so much better

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Anonymous 2w

I have sa trauma and my bf would do that obviously as a joke bc he would smile after and cuddle up w me. But one time I told him “I don’t like when you do that” he clarified he never meant it as anything but a joke and never did it again. Same with other things I’ve made boundaries over. And he hasn’t broken any of them sense

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Anonymous 2w

POUTING!?- it’s definitely something to talk about - and I wouldn’t give in anymore let the lil boy pout

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Anonymous 2w

Like if he feels bad and wants to spend the night because he likes people when he’s upset but I’m tired and want to be alone, sometimes I’ll manage to say no to him and then he pouts about it and I’ll give in Or if I say I’m not hungry and don’t want to go to the cafeteria at the usual time, he’ll pout until I go which just leads to me not eating enough and then being hungry again later

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

It’s not like it’s sexual stuff he’s pouting about, it’s literally mundane shit and I don’t know if it’s worth having a talk about or not because he still needs comfort and is just trying to take care of me

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

I think a good litmus test for deciding if people are being manipulative is whether they are making you feel responsible for their emotions. You can only be responsible for your actions, not their emotions. He needs to consider your feelings just as much as you consider his

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