I understand this pov but men are so quick to shame women for their bodies not “bouncing back” after having kids but then they have no problem with men gaining weight after becoming fathers. It’s a weird double standard

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Anonymous OP 15w

Mind you. Half of them aren’t even fathers. They have dad bods at 23 from drinking

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Anonymous #4 15w

And on top of that they balding

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Anonymous #4 15w

Which there’s nothing wrong with, just call yourself fat. It’s not a bad word unless used as an insult

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Anonymous #3 15w

I agree the double standard is fucked but many ppl are attracted to or are fat and that’s okay too 😭 it’s not a trick nor does it necessarily mean they’re unfit. Unfit is a exercise status not a body type

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Anonymous #8 15w

Low key because people refuse to accept BMI calculations so we have tons of terms instead of just saying overweight/ fat. Post that BMI isn’t bs and see how many people disagree

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Anonymous #7 15w

Okay but bmi is very much bs and they don’t even use the term fat lmao. But they should

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Anonymous #8 15w

See what I mean lol? Between BMI and your body fat % the math is pretty correct. Someone 30 lbs overweight with 35% body fat isn’t in shape lol

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Anonymous #7 15w

It was never meant to measure health tho and there’s so much research to back up that it’s a poor and inaccurate indicator of health. It was developed only measuring white men and was used as a simple statistical tool to compare populations with each other. Also you’re pathologizing body sizes instead of just using neutral descriptors like fat or thin 😭

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Anonymous #7 15w

Also again being in shape isn’t about your body size it’s about your level of fitness 😭 fat ppl can absolutely be in shape just like many thin ppl aren’t in shape

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Anonymous #8 15w

I think there’s a level of size, weight, and muscle mass where being fit by medical standards is impossible. Not to say you can’t be unfit at any size though

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Anonymous #8 15w

I don’t care they’re fat and they’re assholes I don’t fucking care I will use it as an insult to them

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Anonymous #4 15w

Okay then. Think about other ppl tho 😭

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Anonymous #7 15w

I thought it’s bc when men have children they also get a drop in their testosterone which decreases their normal testosterone

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Anonymous #11 15w

Fat people with normal testosterone exist

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Anonymous #7 15w

No I mean like I think that’s where the term came from bc since men have testosterone they build muscle and have less fat much easier naturally but when their testosterone decreases they start getting more chubby doing the same stuff

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Why not? They never show women grace for it

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i’m with you on that. women have so many more biological causes for weight gain than men do and I agree that the double standard is infuriating, but fighting back with more hate and body shaming doesn’t get us anywhere.

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Modern BMI math has been validated since the original 1800’s study. No doctor just uses BMI as a scale. It’s still used as a screening tool because it correlates with higher risks of diabetes, heart disease, hypertension, and other conditions. Doctors also consider body fat %, waist size, fitness, and lab work as well

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nah the answer is always body shaming. shawty isn't even able to do two pushups bc his stomach get in the way. bro is unhealthy. bro is BIG and for some reason I GET SHAMED for not liking it???????

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Anonymous #18 15w

Bruh get a diary and a therapist. Unpack that shit

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Wdym I wasn’t talking about a women #7 was saying the term dad bod comes bc they work out less bc they are busy when they have a child and I said it’s bc it’s a testosterone drop bc imo a lot of fathers get fatter when baby comes even if they don’t take care of baby

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Testosterone does drop in men with children compared to childless men it’s backed by science

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Anonymous #11 15w

I never disputed that testosterone drops when you become a dad. I highlighted that there’s likely also a lifestyle change that makes it harder to be in as good of physical shape due to increased responsibilities at home

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Anonymous #7 15w

I wasn’t responding to u I was responding to #15

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Anonymous #8 15w

Def not all mean it to trick but in my experience it’s been to manipulate or trick women into thinking a body type they are not into is attractive. All body types are great but it’s always to try to change your mind and it’s a double standards when that body type in a woman isn’t okay with that exact same person

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Anonymous #3 15w

i think no matter how much you try to push the dad bod as a hot standard, the women who like muscular men only are only gonna go for them. i think my bf has a dad bod because he is the father of all my food babies (i am well fed in his care)

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Anonymous #23 15w

those are two separate thoughts

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