Anonymous #1 77w

I mean yes, I’m not saying to neglect your partner and your relationship you just prioritize your child and their physical/mental/emotional wellbeing. I just saw a video of a bunch of guys picking between who is most important to them their mom, wife, or daughter/child. All of them put their wife before their child and that’s where this stemmed from

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Anonymous #2 77w

I don’t understand how it’s gross though, can you explain it to me?

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But howww like that’s your KID

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Anonymous OP 77w

I mean yes in a certain sense your wife should come first

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Anonymous OP 77w

your spouse should be your other half. your rock. you should be able to trust them to prioritize you above all else imo. even outside of life or death decisions. the way you treat your spouse reflects on the kids. if you’re constantly lowering your spouse then the kids learn to devalue them too.

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Anonymous OP 77w

without me, a spouse would not have a child. i created that life. i deserve the respect to be first priority. bare minimum in my eyes.

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Anonymous OP 77w

also, if my spouse spends the 18 years prioritizing the kids over me, what relationship or respect will be left for our relationship after the 18 years? i was just shown i’m not a priority for 18 years. now all of a sudden i matter bc the kids are self sufficient? nah. my spouse will be the best example to my children on what healthy marriage looks like. and that looks like two spouses that love each other first and foremost. the kids will feel that love too.

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Anonymous OP 77w

I’d venture to guess it has to do with narcissistic behavioral patterns. Idk all the research but narcissists sometimes view their partners as their possessions whereas they view their children as extensions of themselves.

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