My dads cooking dinner, everyone’s else is cleaning, and my grandma is watching her Facebook reals

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i was thinking about this last night. its sort of embedded in my parents' relationship because the system they built was that my dad tries to help while also working full time, but my mom was really doing everything as a stay-at-home mom. well, now she's working full time, too, but they're so used to that system that my mom is up late cleaning the basement and waking up early to make the turkey?

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i was thinking about this yesterday. all of the women in my family were in the kitchen all day (me included) and my dad, my brothers and cousins just sat there and had the nerve to criticize the food they didn’t help prepare.. like ugh

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My mom and I cook and we send my brother on constant errands to get things to balance it out

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My dad does the main, my mom does all the sides. OTHERWISE my mom does the cooking and my dad does alllll the cleaning (it takes at least 2 hours to clean)

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I’m hosting for the first time this year and my mans wouldn’t let me clean anything because he isn’t a cook (not by choice, dude could burn cereal without trying). Whole house is spotless. If I try to wash a utensil off in the sink, he shoots off the couch with lightning speed and scolds me for trying to wash it. Everything I’ve needed today has been at my fingertips 🥹 Accept no less ya’ll. Mature men make a difference.

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This is so funny to me because my dad did alllll the cooking last night while my mom was playing her little facebook games. mind you my mom is on medical leave since April (surgery, she’s fully recovered) and isn’t going back to work until January😭😭

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my step dad made green bean casserole for our family thanksgiving so my mom could get ready! super grateful that my mom found a real man🤍

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Nothing enrages me more than this. Especially when they just HAND their plate to you without any words like ????? Ur a big boy do it yourself

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And then when everything needs to be cleaned they’re sleeping

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i’m so glad i cut off my dad and his family because no way am i going to go along with outdated “traditions and beliefs” of women serving men because wdym i have to cook and clean everything…

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My dad who does not have a job has been sitting on the couch for 4 days while my mom who works every day comes home and cleans until 1 am to prepare for his family coming on thanksgiving … fucking stupid

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My brother was dead rushing me and my mom to hurry up with cooking like how about you get in here and help???

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My dads cooking and my moms watching football

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my little brother still hasnt figured out how to put dishes in the dishwasher and hes 16, and he does that every day so i think ive lost hope

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what everyone is saying in the comments is crazy!! I can’t believe that stuff still happens :(( my dad is the chef of the household so he makes a lot of the food for Thanksgiving and my mom and I usually make other dishes too, like she’ll make something else and I’ll make dessert. Sorry you all have to deal with incompetent men this holiday :((

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me stubbornly sitting on the couch with all the men in my family while most of the other women are hovering in the kitchen talking ✨

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Fr my grandma and I are the only women on my dads side. She has three grown sons and grandsons that sit on their ass and she bosses me around to serve them

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Glad I have a small family bc one man who can’t do anything is frustrating enough lol

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I hate the culture which is why me as a woman stayed in my room until food was ready 🤍

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nah this is so real. it's actually part of the reason i broke up w my long term bf. i complained abt how all the women of my family were slaving away in the kitchen while all the men were just on their phones in the living room and he legit was like "well u don't mind that right? bc that's how it'll be when we hv ppl over - i have the conversation skills so u should stay in the kitchen. what are u even going to do outside of it?" like wtaf?? we need to stop raising BOYS and start raising men.

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Wait really? I feel like different areas in America do things SO differently... For everyone I know the joke is that like…thanksgiving is the ONE DAY where the dad HAS to cook. Like they slave away all day making the turkey and all the sides so that it can slightly equate to all the cooking mom has done throughout the year (tho personally in my household we also have a rule that if my dads off work it’s his job to figure out what we’re having for dinner. So that my mom can get a break)

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Me and my mom have literally been up since 6am…

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my dad does cooking me and my mom watch macys day parade and my brother comes and moves shit for my dad

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I made my brother help with small tasks while making Mac and cheese at least it was something

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I do kinda get that but at least for us it’s more 50/50. Traditionally the men are the hunters/gatherers for the food (hunting and processing/skinning both the deer for venison and the turkey, or in this case butchering since we did a brisket instead of turkey), gathering the vegetables from the family farm, etc. while the women cook it. And let me tell you, hunting and processing a deer is 𝙛𝙖𝙧 more work than actually cooking and serving it.

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I agree. However, my mom and I do Thanksgiving at my grandparents and my grandpa helps her out A LOT. I swear I’ve never seen this man actually cook before, only on Thanksgiving 😂

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Ok but if the man works and the woman is stay at home then it’s understandable

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I’m so glad that I’m forcing my brother to help out as MUCH as he can. For thanksgiving he was in the kitchen helping out (he’s 13) and anytime I’m back home from college I make sure he helps us cook and clean no matter what so he doesn’t think that women should do it all of the time

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CLOCK IT

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i hate that shit. thankfully i live with my aunt and uncle and my aunts sister and her husband and the entire meal for 12 was cooked by the sisters husband. every single thing. i know if it was the other way though my aunts would protest til the men helped. we need more of that not just giving in

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my dad normally smokes turkey and brisket and my mom and sisters takes care of the sides! i’m not allowed to help bc i got banned from cooking in the house 🙄

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My uncle cooks the turkey

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im good i don’t mind cooking

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My mom can’t cook as good as my dad, so we all agree that he cooks. But I understand that, not seeing men (partners or fathers) do 50/50 especially on a day like this with family and friends.

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My dad is working

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That is too many cooks in the kitchen

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Charlie Kirk would disagree with this

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Hmm and what r u doing?

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I am 19 almost 20 yo male and I do a lot of the cooking for thanksgiving at our house. My mom does a little and so does my dad. We usually host for other parts of the family and they can bring whatever they’d like. So usually end up with a bunch of food

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As long as they clean the dinner dishes I don't see the problem. Usually you want people who are good Cooks to cook the meal 🤷

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