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Should a man have a say in wanting kids ??

Anonymous 2d

i mean sure he can have his opinion. doesn’t mean he can decide what a woman does with her body

Anonymous 2d

I mean on the surface level like yes of course. I’d have to know the context of the situation but like, if it’s a couple in a committed relationship and he doesn’t want kids for example, I think it would be wrong for his partner to stop taking the pill or something and not tell him. To me, that’s like an informed consent issue. If it’s a situation where he wants them and the female partner doesn’t, like obviously his desire shouldn’t supersede hers.

Anonymous 2d

More people need to understand that they both have a say but neither opinion should violate another persons body or access to wants For example If a man wants a baby but a woman doesn’t that results in two reasonable outcomes: - they break up because let’s be frank baby disagreements are relationship ending - they talk and come to some agreement And you might say well if the agreement is to not have a baby does that not violate the man’s wants - yeah it does but it does not eliminate ACCESS

Anonymous 2d

A man can have a desire to have kids and he can be with someone with that mutual desire for kids. He can’t influence whether or not a woman wants kids and he shouldn’t dictate how many she wants.

Anonymous 2d

I agree that they both have an stay to an extent !!! Yes I think the topic of children can really be a deal breaker in an relationship!!! I think people should really bring up the question when first getting to know an person !!

Anonymous

#1 2d

Agreed. I don’t think he should be telling women to do with her body ! I think I’m coming at it as like what if she was to get pregnant and didn’t want to keep it!! But he wants too keep it !!

Anonymous

OP 2d

then he should have been more careful and made sure they were on the same page before having sex

Anonymous

#3 2d

I think if it’s a situation where a woman was to get pregnant that did not want children, but her partner did, it would be fair for the male partner to request that she would continue the pregnancy under the agreement that he would assume all parental rights or something, but also think she has every right to deny that request.

Anonymous

#4 2d

Why? Because he can leave. It’s the same if a woman wants a baby and the man doesn’t. They can either negotiate towards an agreement or the woman can leave and access someone who wants babies

Anonymous

#4 2d

These are like 2 date conversations tbh. Do not even bothering committing to someone without this convo.

Anonymous

#1 2d

Yes I agree with that !! I just think of ppl who end up in those situations!!! I think women have the way

Anonymous

#3 2d

To be clear, I’m saying he’s allowed to as, to make that request and she’s allowed to say no.

Anonymous

#3 2d

I just think it’s up to the woman since she’s the one who’s pregnant !! If it comes down to an accidental pregnancy !! And he shouldn’t fight her on that !!! It’s harder for ppl in full relationship and have yet talked about it

Anonymous

#2 2d

Yeah men who do that are crazy !!

Anonymous

OP 2d

Of course, what I’m saying is just that she may not want to have to take care of a child but it’s possible she’d be agreeable to give birth and then relinquish parental rights/responsibility. Society often only considers men who make that decision, but I think many women would also take that path if they didn’t feel pressured against it. And if the other partner was willing to take full responsibility and custody, she might do so.

Anonymous

OP 2d

I’m not sure I agree with the idea that he’s fighting her on that for asking. So long as he doesn’t pressure her, I just don’t think presenting it as an option is an appropriate.