Girl Talk on Sidechat | Is this a safe space to say that I don’t know if I’ve ever actually had an O? I’m a virgin, so it do be ✨self given✨ However, I just don’t understand. Like it feels good, but what is the difference between feeling good and the peak?

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Is this a safe space to say that I don’t know if I’ve ever actually had an O? I’m a virgin, so it do be ✨self given✨ However, I just don’t understand. Like it feels good, but what is the difference between feeling good and the peak?

Anonymous 12h

I remember when I felt like that. It honestly took a lot of experimenting to have an O that felt good. I’d always heard people describe them but I never reached that level for a while. Being educated about your body and being open to trying things like toys is gonna make the biggest difference! I’d be more than happy to answer questions 🫶 not a topic you should ever feel embarrassed about. Society makes it taboo for no reason.

Anonymous 12h

i’m the same way! makes me feel weird since like idk if i orgasm but i know when to stop if that makes sense

Anonymous 7h

I’m a virgin too but I think you just know. Like there’s a buildup, then a peak, and then a release. The peak is kinda euphoric, like it’s more than just feeling good. I’m sure everyone’s different, but personally I tend to loose interest in anything sex-related right after I finish. Like I finish and I’m immediately done and don’t feel a need to continue. Also on occasion if I have a sexy dream, I’ll peak in my sleep but like I physically feel it because I half wake up if that makes any sense.

Anonymous 7h

When I peak or O, It feels like a big shockwave that warms my lower belly and then smaller bursts and waves and i feel it in my fingers and toes and sometimes my chest. Im not sure how to describe it other than it’s very tingly and it feels reaallly good.

Anonymous 10h

For me I had to get off antidepressants to get one

Anonymous 10h

I felt exactly like this, then I got a dildo and it changed my life

Anonymous 9h

If it starts to feel overstimulating that’s normal but it’s not because you orgasmed. Trust, when you finish you know 😭😭

Anonymous 7h

for me the first one felt like something was getting big inside me and i wanted to keep going then it happened and i was melting when the release happened

Anonymous 2h

The first time I orgasmed I didn’t even sound human, idk even know how to describe it except for the fact that I was so exhausted after and my pelvis muscles were so tired I couldn’t pee for four hours. But that being said, it is completely different compared to when some else does it vs when you do it yourself. I’ve never experienced that when I do it myself but I have also stopped at like two

Anonymous 2h

Omg like I don’t think I’ve ever had an O like it feels good to the point where I get overstimulated and am like omg this is too much I can’t handle it and I feel like I’m gonna pee😭

Anonymous

#1 12h

Fr! Like when it gets overwhelming, I have to stop even though it’s a good feeling. Is that it?😂

Anonymous

OP 12h

Not quite! Sometimes you just get overstimulated. Been there before though. Trust me, there will be no question about it when you have a strong O.

Anonymous

sour_pickle 12h

see like for me, i’ll try to keep going and then it just feels like nothing

Anonymous

sour_pickle 12h

You’re so sweet🥲 I haven’t tried anything like a toy before. I guess I’ve just been a little nervous lol. I didn’t really think much about it until I got an app for tracking that has several articles available about various women’s health questions. I didn’t even realize that every physiological response is different for everyone too. It’s really fascinating!

Anonymous

#1 12h

Felt

Anonymous

OP 12h

I really want to understand how, but I feel like I get in my head sooo much about it and like I don’t really know what I’m doing.

Anonymous

OP 12h

It really is! There’s also really important psychological factors that go into it too. Honestly, I’d totally recommend trying a simple vibrator. It’s a game-changer. I started with a simple bullet and she’s still my tried and true. I totally understand if you’re not comfortable with it though!

Anonymous

#1 12h

I totally get that. That’s why I take a break and recollect myself. Taking your time and building up slowly might help make a difference

Anonymous

#3 12h

FELT.

Anonymous

sour_pickle 12h

That makes total sense! I’d be open to trying a vibrator, but I do think I’m more of a simple gal, pun intended haha.

Anonymous

sour_pickle 12h

Alexa play We’re All In This Together

Anonymous

sour_pickle 12h

I’m so glad I’m not alone in this! I tried explaining it to my partner once, and he very much did not understand. He tried, but he admitted he didn’t understand and would follow my lead in helping me to “figure it out.” Which is super sweet but doesn’t like help with my overthinking or me not really knowing what I’m doing 😭

Anonymous

#3 12h

I feel like it’s so much easier for guys! They’ve got a whole external hose to go by😭

Anonymous

OP 12h

No literally? Like what do you mean you can take care of business in five minutes?

Anonymous

OP 12h

Totally understandable!

Anonymous

#3 12h

LITERALLY

Anonymous

#5 10h

Really? I’ve thought about delving into the world of toys, but it just makes me so nervous!

Anonymous

#4 10h

I might be doomed then💀

Anonymous

#5 10h

To me, dildos are so much more intimidating than vibrators, and I have no idea why

Anonymous

#3 10h

I totally get that, what helps me is that with toys, you’re completely in control. You can adjust to what level you’re comfortable with and you know your body better than anyone else

Anonymous

OP 10h

That totally makes sense. If youd like to try out penetration, it’s a safe start because you go at your pace. But if you prefer just stimulation, maybe start with a vibrator. Also, they do compliment each other so if you want, it’s not a bad idea to get both

Anonymous

#5 10h

Is there like a specific type of toy you’d recommend for a total newbie? I’ve been thinking about maybe getting 1-2 just to see if they’re something I’d enjoy.

Anonymous

#3 10h

Kinda like what I mentioned in my other comment, I would suggest starting with a vibrator if you just like the stimulation. If you want to try out penetration, go for a dildo, probably one that’s slim and smaller. If you want to get 2, nothing wrong with trying both just to see what you like

Anonymous

#5 10h

I got mine from Bellesa Boutique, they have sales a lot

Anonymous

#5 10h

Thank you!

Anonymous

#5 10h

I personally just have a hard time understanding penetration alone. Like you said, they compliment each other. Plus, most of the research I’ve read says many women aren’t able to reach completion from penetration alone. I also, not sure, don’t think masturbation can just be penetration.

Anonymous

OP 10h

It’s definitely something to explore and figure out what works best for you. I personally can achieve an orgasm through just penetration, but I know what you mean, most women cannot.

Anonymous

#6 9h

I find visual stimulation really feels helpful. I stopped feeling like “oh this just feels nice but it’s not going anywhere and now it just feels like too much” and more like “oh wow the good feeling is really building up!”. The O itself feels like a pulsing sensation where I have to stop touching it to really let it ride out.

Anonymous

#6 8h

What do you mean by visual stimulation exactly?

Anonymous

#3 8h

Idk like watching things that turn me on 😭😭

Anonymous

OP 8h

LITERALLY! Like I wish I could stroke my shit for 5 seconds and bust 💀

Anonymous

#6 8h

Ooh okay, gotcha. I didn’t know if you meant literal, physical things or just like things you imagine in your head. Like I mentioned in a previous comment, I don’t really know much about this. Sorry if that question was weird!

Anonymous

#11 1h

Up until I got with my bf I couldn’t do it on my own bc of that 😭