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nobody talks about the subconscious pressure to perform sex & sexuality in a relationship with a man to keep him satisfied/ happy. you can FEEL his underlying expectation of sex. it undercurrents everything and its disgusting
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Anonymous 7w

the majority of men do not give a fuck about your emotions, hobbies, dreams, talents, etc. at the end of it all, they just want to fuck. if they cant get that, even if only temporarily, they feel like you're trying to withhold something? or be difficult? WHAT IF I JUST DONT WANNA FUCK RIGHT NOW?šŸ˜­

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Anonymous 7w

Idk why you got downvoted this needs to be talked about more. We all talk about men who openly demand and expect sex but never that subconscious anxiety

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Anonymous 7w

the audacity of a man to comment, in a girls only space, that i experienced male sexual pressure in relationships because "im not choosing attractive men" and that hes never heard of this problem..... despite countless studies, testimonies, and sociologists saying otherwise. wow. you cant make this up

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Anonymous 7w

im currently single but damn that shit is so anxiety inducing

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Anonymous 7w

This is one of the reasons Iā€™m scared of dating. I briefly went out with a guy when we were in college, he was my first. And heā€™d had a girlfriend of three years until a year before we went out and heā€™d like make some like innuendos and stuff before we actually had sex so I knew he was expecting it, and it was just the one time. And that was when I really discovered I was asexual

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Anonymous 7w

girl choose better men. my man loves me, and if i turned out to be asexual i KNOW he would still be with me. it sounds like you lowkey have some soul searching to do

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Anonymous 7w

You are dating the wrong men then or you donā€™t find the men you date attractive. Because you shouldnā€™t feel like that. I love my girlfriend very much and appreciate her as a person. That doesnā€™t mean I donā€™t still want to have sex. Multiple things can be true.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 7w

I have an amazing relationship with my partner (a man) and everything is perfect except that one thing. Heā€™s never pressured me or done anything to make me worry, but I will always have that thought in the back of my head that just not having enough sex will be enough to write off the entire relationship for him.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 7w

...ive worked on myself, but im still remaining single BECAUSE so many men are like this. šŸ˜­ this post is about how common this behavior is in men. telling women to choose better might seem like good advice but its surface level and didn't address men's behavior whatsoever

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 7w

Iā€™m the same I get anxious ab it all the time and I havenā€™t talked to a man in many months.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 7w

hard to choose better when men deceive and don't reveal their true intentions until later. very victim blamey

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 7w

ā€œgirl choose better menā€ oh iā€™m so tired of women being expected to take accountability for menā€™s poor behavior. if youā€™re saying choose better men that means there ARE men like the ones OP is talking about. get off your high horse.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 7w

šŸ¦šŸ¦šŸ¦

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 7w

thank you for understanding what i mean! and especially with how redpilled many men have become, my fears worsened. i genuinely wonder how many of them feel like they're owed sex, or will build resentment for not getting it, etc etc.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 7w

i've worked on myself and don't believe in purity culture ,and i reject the idea of performing "my role" or perceiving myself through the eyes of a man but i seriously doubt that the average man has put in the work into himself. would he even realize that hes subconsciously acting out these beliefs? idk bro, lots to think about

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 7w

Iā€™m pretty sure there are whole sociological studies on the sexual expectations / pressure in heterosexual relationshipsā€¦.. like the dynamics are especially skewed because of porn and just patriarchy in general ā€¦.. this is not an isolated issue ā€¦.. but Iā€™m also well read

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 7w

Exactly. I donā€™t think sheā€™s choosing attractive men cause Iā€™ve never seen someone have this problem with someone theyā€™re dating.

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 7w

Why are you here

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 7w

Some of us do lol. I could listen to my girlfriend yap all day because I genuinely enjoy being around her. Sheā€™s literally my best friend, and Iā€™m always there for her emotionally. The sex is amazing, but itā€™s just one part of why I love being with her.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 7w

Shut the fuck up oh my god

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 7w

Because yall have men wrong. Iā€™m here to clear the air

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 7w

a man can be attractive but that doesnt mean i want to have sex every time he does? that changes literally nothing about my post?

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 7w

lmfao holy shit. you're a man, you dont belong here. im not surprised that you dont comprehend the post because you arent a woman. and men wonder why we dont like yall

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 7w

Youā€™re right. I guess my point is that sometimes we come across like we only want sex or expect it, even when thatā€™s not how we actually feel. A lot of us genuinely care about you beyond that.

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 7w

And a lot of people donā€™t. This is a space for women to vent about their lived experiences. Stop butting in with unsolicited opinions. MANY women have been treated poorly when they stop ā€œputting outā€ or made to feel guilty for not being in the mood frequently enough (or not at all). Leave us alone, itā€™s GIRL talk

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 7w

you care so much about women that you bulldozed your way into the girl's talk where nobody wants you. wow, so caring and understandingā¤ļø

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 7w

can you go bro

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 7w

LEAVE

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 7w

Sorry I will leave now. Just feel like women got us all wrong. And those experiences with bad men usually overshadow the good guys

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 7w

Have a goodnight ladies. Peace

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