Anonymous #1 2w

I tried to bring it up but couldn’t stop getting upset so then after we talked abt it for a little I just pretended to be fine and he’s sleeping but here I am crying again when I have class in a few hours

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Anonymous OP 2w

What is upsetting you most about it?

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Anonymous #1 2w

The fact he kissed someone

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Anonymous OP 2w

Completely valid. I think on his side it was just a harmless game that had no romantic intentions whatsoever. But to you it meant more than that. I think maybe tell him that you understand that he didn’t have bad intentions, but it made you really uncomfortable. And ask that he respectfully doesn’t do anything like that again, regardless of context

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Anonymous #1 2w

Because he’s probably getting defensive thinking you’re accusing him of cheating or having romantic feelings for another person. Make it clear that you know that wasn’t the case, but regardless it made you uncomfortable

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Anonymous #1 2w

He said he won’t do it again and I know there weren’t any romantic feelings. It’s the fact that kissing was supposed to only be between the two of us and I know they all thought it was funny but to me it’s not. My bf said it’s not the physical act of kissing that means stuff to him, it’s the thought and passion behind it but to me it’s both and I’m just so worked up

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Anonymous OP 2w

Yeah for sure. I’m sorry this happened to you :( I think another conversation tomorrow when everyone’s head is clear from the initial emotional reaction could be beneficial

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Anonymous #1 2w

Thx I rly appreciate u talking to me. I don’t want to bring this up to anyone ik in real life because I don’t want them to know my bf kissed a bf. Not meant in a homophobic way at all, it’s just humiliating to me

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Anonymous OP 2w

Op you’re so real for feeling how u feel actually, I think the fact that u two have been able to communicate this and that you’ve gotten this far is like peak relationship!

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Anonymous OP 2w

What do yall think of this text: (part 1) We need to talk. This is not me attacking you but i think it needs to be discussed again. I literally could not fall asleep until after the sun already rose so I got maybe about two hours of sleep before class which is just not good.

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Anonymous OP 2w

(Pt 2) I think we need to dial back on physical stuff right now until we can define and agree on what it means to both of us. Even if it was just a kiss as a joke, we definitely view kissing differently which led to me feeling very disrespected and hurt. I really want to move past this so we can get over it which is why I think it needs to be talked about again. I love you

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Anonymous #2 2w

It’s smth I rly want to get over bc we’ve been together for years and he’s gonna purpose next year

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Anonymous OP 2w

i think that's good. u rly do need to talk it ALL out this time tho. continuing to discuss stuff like this over and over can really wear on a relationship so def say all u need to say and take ur time to heal and decide if u can move past

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Anonymous #2 2w

AH I just sent it to him I’m crapping my pants

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Anonymous OP 2w

u got this girl

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Anonymous OP 2w

Just to think, if he’s secure enough to tell you and you know it didn’t have any romantic intent- u know he’s not gonna run away with someone- would u kiss one of ur gfs as a joke?

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