Anonymous #1 4w

That’s good. I just wanna be desired for once.

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Anonymous OP 4w

That’s completely understandable, especially when you want to be desired by someone you want.

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Anonymous OP 4w

girl get on tinder. you’ll feel desired

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Anonymous #2 4w

I’ll never get on a dating app. So many women came up missing

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Anonymous OP 4w

I want to be desired but not in that way or to put myself in danger lmfao

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Anonymous #2 4w

I don’t want someone I want someone to want me

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Anonymous OP 4w

It’s even harder when it feels like everyone around you has it so easily

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Anonymous #2 4w

Everyone does. Girls get approached get a bf. Mean while I NEVER get approached unless it’s a guy who wants money , a ride or an assignment done

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Anonymous OP 4w

Well as a fellow girl who’s never been approached for genuine reasons, I give you a 🫂. It’s hard out here honestly but I hope knowing you aren’t the only one helps a little.

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Anonymous #2 4w

You never had a bf ?

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Anonymous OP 4w

Nope, some people get lucky and are around the right kind of people, some don’t and some settle

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Anonymous OP 4w

i guess 🤷‍♀️ but i’ve been on them for like years and im still alive. just don’t go meeting strangers in remote places

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Anonymous #1 4w

And how many relationship you had from there ?

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Anonymous OP 4w

also tbh most women you know with bfs are NOT getting approached. they’re on dating apps (where men know that you want to be approached) or approaching men themselves. 🤷‍♀️ i’ve had three boyfriends and i approached all of them. i’ve been approached IRL maybe 3 times in my life, and always by freaks. bc the average, date-able man these days just doesn’t approach women bc they’re afraid of being creeps/getting rejected. my best advice is to go out and seek someone instead of waiting around

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Anonymous #1 4w

the women you see getting approached are either knockouts, or you’re seeing it online where it’s staged for the internet. go fix your own issues. get a dating app

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Anonymous #1 4w

Wow 😭😭😭😭 this is real. But I’ve seen coworker get hit on a bunch of times by customers at work

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Anonymous #1 4w

And I def agree about the staged social media thing lol because some of those videos are like this is unreal

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Anonymous OP 4w

i haven’t personally dated anyone from a dating app, but that’s just bc it didn’t work out that way for me. i talked to plenty of nice, cute, normal guys from dating apps. lots of my friends have had serious relationships from dating apps, including my own sister currently. also, tbh, it can seem like lots of women have bfs and you don’t bc lots of women settle for a guy that’s not that great just to be able to say they have a bf for social status. better to be alone than to settle

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Anonymous #1 4w

You’re right 🤦🏽‍♀️ I’m comparing myself to other girs

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Anonymous #1 4w

Sorry I meant my coworker got hit on not approached lol because she had to interact with the customers **

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Anonymous OP 4w

it’s okay we all do it but yeah the main times i’ve been approached are by absolute psychos. i got hit on sometimes at my customer service jobs, but it was usually old creeps or teenage boys. nobody id actually consider dating and definitely not marrying. my point is, male validation is cheap and easy to get. i guarantee if you made a tinder profile, you’d have literally hundreds of likes in one day.

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Anonymous #1 4w

You’re right

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Anonymous OP 4w

Getting hit on while interacting with customers ≠ being approached or for anything serious

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Anonymous OP 4w

It’s honestly kinda rare to see people who are in relationships for the right reasons when you think about it. Depending on where you are

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Anonymous #2 4w

True

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Anonymous #2 4w

yeah i definitely feel like society pushes a very very relationship-centric viewpoint. there’s a complete inability to accept that someone might not WANT a relationship. it’s kind of crazy that it’s almost 2026 and we still have this idea that getting into a relationship and getting married is THE end all be all. i’ve had to repeatedly tell myself that i WOULD rather be single than be committed to the wrong person for the rest of my life. that’s a huge undertaking!

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