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im dating an arab guy (who isn’t muslim btw) & my mom and aunt keep referring to him as that “muslim guy” and im extremely close to going tf off on them. only problem is that i live with my mom but i feel like she’s only doing it bc he’s not white.
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Anonymous 2w

i have told her MULTIPLE times he’s not even muslim and yet she continues. she’s respectful to his face, but she constantly says little shit about him when he’s not around like im very close to cussing her out

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Anonymous 2w

Genuinely that’s racist behavior hello?!

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Anonymous 2w

As an Arab girl, yeah that’s just racist love I’m sorry. I know how you feel though (in a different way of course) bc my dad refuses to meet or acknowledge my bf of a year now bc he’s in the military :( I obviously don’t have much experience the other way around but with brown families I know the parents typically come around once they kind of get over themselves and get to know their kids partners, I hope this happens for the both of us 😭

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2w

i know 😭 unfortunately i live with her and if she kicks me out i have nowhere to go. my bf lives on campus so that’s a no go, but i also don’t want her to disrespect him. ive tried to calmly confront her about it but it’s getting to a point and i feel stuck.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

You might need to put your foot down, and ask what she really thinks about him- but sadly that might just be something you need to put up with until you leave 😭😭

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2w

I do stand up for my bf with my dad (we’ve gone thru what he thinks my bf is like but it’s all false assumptions based on his job/background so that’s mostly me trying to correct him) but it usually just ends in us arguing until we give up lol. So mostly we just don’t talk about him. Then again, I also don’t live at home, so I can speak more freely — my best advice for u is time, eventually she will realize she has no other choice but to accept him. I wish you guys luck! Where’s he from?

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2w

girl im sorry you’re going through that! it’s the worst when our parents don’t like our partners 😭 i have gone back and forth with my mom a lot about it in a more calm manner, but that’s obviously not working.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2w

he was actually born in the US, but his parents are from Lebanon!

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

Heyyy another Levantine!! I was also in the US (I’m Jordanian/palestinian) but I grew up with a bunch of Lebanese folks :) I hope he’s cooked for you lol we have great food

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

And tbh idk if anything more serious than the calms manner would be any more effective — the more you push against her, the more she might come to resent your bf. I’d say wait until you have the means to maybe not live with her anymore, and then make your stance very clear — once she realizes she has to respect him to be a part of your life, she should clean up her act. Until then, I’m really sorry you have to deal with this too girl :( I hope things get better!!

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