Girl Talk on Sidechat | my bf is thinking of self harm (like punching himself) and thinks all he does is mess up and let ppl down. i'm trying to convince him that's not true and not to hurt himself but he won't listen. I need advice on how to help him please

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Girl Talk 6w

my bf is thinking of self harm (like punching himself) and thinks all he does is mess up and let ppl down. i'm trying to convince him that's not true and not to hurt himself but he won't listen. I need advice on how to help him please

Anonymous 6w

Don’t try to be his therapist; that’s not healthy for either of you. Encourage him to see a real therapist and help him schedule the first appointment. Your school likely has a counseling center if he doesn’t want it on his insurance.

Anonymous 6w

I have known people like this and it took me too long to realize if they’re not capable of loving or taking care of themself, they’re not close to being able to care for or love another person. he needs professional help, not a girl who thinks she can fix him

Anonymous

#1 6w

this is if he has been like this and it isn’t out of character for him. if this is a new thing and very out of character, he still likely needs professional help but it can be worth sticking out for him

Anonymous

#1 6w

but if he’s always been one of those “ugh all i do is be terrible and let everyone down and no one likes me” types consistently (or just after you get to know him) esp if he has few friends and makes those “dark humor” jokes that are just him talking about hating himself, he is what people call an energy vampire and isn’t your responsibility to fix

Anonymous

#1 6w

we've been together for 1.5 years and this is out of the blue for him