Anonymous #2 4w

why do you think it’s insecurity that makes people consider it cheating?

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Anonymous #3 4w

cause nothing else makes sense in my head

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Anonymous #2 4w

it doesn’t make sense to you that people could have a boundary about their partners intentionally seeking out others to view and imagine sexually?

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Anonymous #3 4w

no? i think its dumb honestly 🤷‍♀️ but to each their own or whatever

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Anonymous #2 4w

okay lol, just wanted you to consider not everyone does it bc of insecurity :)

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Anonymous #3 4w

Why would they have that boundary besides feeling jealous/insecure that someone else is being thought of in a sexual way? That’s always the reasoning behind it (and btw it’s perfectly fine for couples to view porn as cheating if that’s what they want for their relationship)

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Anonymous #8 4w

This is exactly how I feel about it. There’s a difference to me between subscribing to models and asking for nudes from people, and just watching random videos on PH/twitter

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Anonymous #6 4w

i guess i just view it as more of a respect thing. bc i make my views on porn (an incredibly harmful and exploitative industry especially for women lol) very clear. if i found out someone i was dating watched it despite that im not necessarily jealous/insecure im more hurt bc i boundary i had (not dating someone who watches porn) was crossed yk?

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Anonymous #3 4w

So it’s not about porn but instead about specifically real life filmed/photographed porn, that I can understand based on what you said. That doesn’t include smut, audios, and other forms of fictional porn such as drawing or animations, which don’t exploit real people, so I’m wondering if those would be a different story

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Anonymous #2 4w

Genuinely wondering why you think it’s dumb? Porn is extremely exploitative and can be harmful to a relationship in so many ways so although it might not be cheating I think it’s totally justified to be upset abt it

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Anonymous #2 4w

It’s NOT a good sign that your boyfriend is watching porn. It’s not cheating but it confirms that you aren’t fulfilling his sexual needs and he’s watching it else where and getting off but I guess.

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Anonymous #3 4w

you literally didnt help me consider anything?? 💀💀💀 what are u on about

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Anonymous #6 4w

yeah honestly it’s 100% about the harm to real life women. i care a lot less about smut/audios/etc lol i really don’t know if i would consider those cheating

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Anonymous #7 4w

just because the porn industry is explotive doesn't mean all porn is harmful, you can consume porn in an ethical way that isn't harmful to you or your relationships. If you're not able to do that the that's a you issue not an us issue

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Anonymous #9 4w

thats the dumbest shit ever 💀🙏 ur man is allowed to jerk off whenever, i shouldn't need to fufill his every sexual desire 24/7

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Anonymous #2 4w

…i offered a different perspective? if you don’t want to consider it that’s up to you lol i was just trying to be nice

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Anonymous #3 4w

barely lmao, you just asked me if i dont get something and i said no, how is that offering another perspective?

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Anonymous #2 4w

You’re right but if he sleeps with another woman don’t panic

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Anonymous #9 4w

if watching porn leads a man to sleeping with another woman i think there's bigger problems going on that just him watching porn 💀🙏 like that makes no sense, thats like saying him seeing a sexy game character will make him cheat on me

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Anonymous #2 4w

9 is in another comments section right now trying to blame women who are victims of cheating for not meeting their boyfriend’s needs, sounds super rapey

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Anonymous #2 4w

bc you said people only do it bc of insecurity, i said there could be other reasons behind that boundary OTHER than insecurity, and you said that idea was dumb. why would i continue that convo or go any deeper when that was your reaction 😭

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Anonymous #2 4w

the majority of porn isn’t ethical. imo i would argue that OF is probably the most ethical you can get.

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Anonymous #3 4w

my point is you never even began the conversation to begin with? like you asked me does xyz not make sense to you and i said no, i dont understand how it could be anything other than jelousy and u gave up on the convo ✋😭 me calling something stupid isnt me deflecting a convo that wasn't even there to begin with

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Anonymous #1 4w

i honestly agree but like partly, you can find ethically made porn on any porn site, its just about knowing what is and isn't ethical, like you could prob find some nasty stuff on OF just as easily as u can on pornhub 🤷‍♀️

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Anonymous #2 4w

idk how to explain to you that calling an idea someone offers stupid does not signal you want to continue that convo. like yeah i never really started it bc after the first question i asked i didn’t think you wanted to keep talking 😭😭

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Anonymous #2 4w

i just think that the vast majority of people are quick to villinize all pornography just because one section of the industry is bad, but like that's not 100% the fault of all porn-actors, like to me its very black and white thinking and i just dont agree with that

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Anonymous #3 4w

idk its just not? idk how else to put it for u ✋💀

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Anonymous #2 4w

porn damages your brain over time so imo i don’t think any of it is ethical if we want to get technical but 🤷🏼‍♀️

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Anonymous #2 4w

even if i did begin the convo exactly was i supposed to talk about when this is how you reply

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Anonymous #1 4w

where did you get that info ✋😭😭 thats honestly so not true, like this is the bs im talking about that people spread about porn, like this is do puritan culture-esk

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Anonymous #3 4w

man idk figure it out 💀 if u wanna have a convo, learn to have one idfk

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Anonymous #2 4w

it does. porn damages your frontal lobe over time from extreme use, which makes you desensitized to specific things on it and can change the way you view people in a sexual context. i’m not arguing, just putting it out there.

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Anonymous #1 4w

girl extreme use of anything damages your brain ✋😭😭😭 like no shit, wtf is that argument?

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Anonymous #2 4w

why are you being a bitch? i’m literally being respectful and civil as i’m talking to you. oh man.

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Anonymous #1 4w

im literally not?? 😭😭😭😭😭😭

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Anonymous #2 4w

the way you’re talking is coming off very strong even if that isn’t your intent. :)

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Anonymous #1 4w

sorry u dont like the way i talk? 😭 idk what u want me to do about that tbh

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Anonymous #2 4w

just pointing it out because it seemed like you were being mean even if you aren’t. have a nice night!

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Anonymous #1 4w

ok i guess..? 💀

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Anonymous #2 4w

Ur insufferable please just shut up 🙏

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Anonymous #7 4w

ur the one commenting under me 😭 u can literally just block me 😭

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Anonymous OP 4w

i posted this and got off the app for like an hour and came back to this lol

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Anonymous OP 4w

wouldn't emotionally cheating mean they would need to have an emotional connection in the first place? 😭😭

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Anonymous OP 4w

I’ll specify a bit more, i think it’s emotional cheating because to me it looks like oh, this person wants what i don’t have or can’t give to them. in my past relationships ive allowed recording sex because id rather that exist than them go get off to a different girl or something. i just think it shows that maybe they’re not fully present in our relationship. but! to each their own and that’s why I posted this, just curious

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Anonymous #2 4w

i mean idk emotional cheating to me idk how to word it better because they’re cheating on MY emotions if that makes sense, obviously if i am in a relationship this is a conversation i would have with said partner and boundaries can be established, i just like to think my partner would respect me enough to not do that if I explicitly say it makes me uncomfortable

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Anonymous OP 4w

wouldnt that just mean ur insecure in the relationship then? cause if you're worrying about they're looking for something in porn that they want but "you dont have it/ cant give them" then that would just mean ur insecure that porn is fufilling things you dont thibk youre able to fufill?

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Anonymous #2 4w

eh no not insecure in my relationship because if they’re with me , they must want some part of me. but i personally just do take a little offense to it like damn why that girl and not me? yknow? so yes like, them watching it would make ME feel insecure to a point but not insecure in my relationship because it’s not like they’re gonna go get w a pornstar that doesn’t know them yknow. but that’s why i was curious about other people’s opinions because idk there’s definitely just a lot of variables

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Anonymous OP 4w

and a lot of takes on this in general

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Anonymous #1 4w

I like this point I agree

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Anonymous OP 4w

i’m so sorry #2 started a war in the comments. i blocked her to protect my peace bc i wasn’t arguing w her at all. lol

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Anonymous #1 4w

Lmaoo good for you queen, this comment section went crazy and I had no idea it would. I was just curious about other opinions but what you said very blatantly sums up my thought process even at that too honestly. It’s just a communication thing for relationships

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Anonymous OP 4w

exactly you get it fr fr

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