Sometimes they start out great to lure people in and then become shitty, and become very difficult to leave in the process

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As someone who has stayed with shitty men, my reason was because that’s the standard I was raised on. My dad was never good to me or my mom, but they’re still married so I learned you’re just supposed to tolerate men. Luckily I found a man who would probably give me an organ no questions asked if I needed it so my standards are way higher now

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They crave external validation and especially from men because they feel super insecure without it and have very low confidence

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Based on friends’ experiences it’s the idea that like ‘well things were okay once we just have to get back to that’ or them becoming like genuinely violent and it being scary/impossible to leave. Like based on my own experiences you often end up isolated and it can be VERY difficult to reach out to people and explain what’s happening behind closed doors; even people you see regularly and even when you’re not being totally cut off from the outside world

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