Anonymous #1 12h

I told him he could have 1-2 beers max around me. Like I don’t have a problem with him going out and drinking with friends! Just not around me. But he said I’m being controlling so idk lmk

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Anonymous OP 12h

he might just drink too much to comply with that tbh. which just might not be something that's compatible with how you want to live. if no compromise if willing to be reached you have to decide if you can live with it or not

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Anonymous OP 12h

This isn’t controlling this is a boundary. He is trying to manipulate you in order to bypass your boundaries, unfortunately. whether it is intentional or not. if he isn’t going to respect your boundaries and then in turn try and shift blame or gaslight you, you need to have a serious conversation with him and consider parting ways potentially.

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Anonymous #2 12h

That’s very controlling you can have one or two beers around me? What if he tried to enforce that type of rule on her

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Anonymous #2 12h

i don't think he's being manipulative in saying it's not something he wants to have to stick to. he's being upfront that this isn't a compromise he's willing to make, it's all up to if both of them can find some middle ground or live with this, or if it's time to part ways indeed

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Anonymous #3 12h

If being drunk makes her uncomfortable, and he can’t respect that and still continues to do it, that is disrespectful. Saying that she is controlling for being uncomfortable around drunk people, is manipulative.

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Anonymous #2 12h

he's allowed to have a problem with not drinking around his gf in the same way she's allowed to be uncomfy with it. they either find a solution TOGETHER, move past it, or breakup. it's not manipulative

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