Girl Talk on Sidechat | YOUR LIFE IS NOT ABOUT MEN!!! IT’S SUPPOSED TO BE ABOUT YOU!!!! YOU DON’T NEED TO GET MARRIED!! YOU DON’T NEED TO HAVE A BOYFRIEND!! YOU DON’T NEED MALE VALIDATION OR PRESENCE TO MAKE YOU OR YOUR LIFE MEANINGFUL!! YOU ARE NOT REQUIRED TO BE PRETTY!!!

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YOUR LIFE IS NOT ABOUT MEN!!! IT’S SUPPOSED TO BE ABOUT YOU!!!! YOU DON’T NEED TO GET MARRIED!! YOU DON’T NEED TO HAVE A BOYFRIEND!! YOU DON’T NEED MALE VALIDATION OR PRESENCE TO MAKE YOU OR YOUR LIFE MEANINGFUL!! YOU ARE NOT REQUIRED TO BE PRETTY!!!

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Anonymous 4w

i wish my brain and my heart could both agree to this

Anonymous 4w

I thought I needed a boyfriend but then I got my own car

Anonymous 4w

I agree…we don’t “need” men…anyone who says they “need men” need to go to therapy and work on themselves….but do I adventually want a boyfriend? Yes…am I going to stop bettering myself or lower my standards for one? Fuck no….there’s a big difference between “need” and “want” and I feel like people forget that

Anonymous 4w

but also if you want to be married or be in a relationship, and or have children, that’s completely okay and just as valid of a meaningful life

Anonymous 4w

Im recently single for the first time since I was 13 (18 now) any suggestions on things to do to deal with the break up and just like how to be single as an adult

Anonymous 4w

Yes

Anonymous

#1 4w

get up!!

Anonymous

#1 4w

I used to be like that and I have my moments but after I started journaling and working on myself for me….my mindset slowly changed…I met better people who showed me that I’m enough and I’ll be honest I became a man hater (in the sense that I only have select men in my life that have proven themselves to me as my friends or family)

Anonymous

#2 4w

wanting a partner and wanting a family because YOU want it is wonderful! that’s your dream? that’s fantastic. i just don’t appreciate the societal push for girls to pin their worth on male validation and i feel like even though we’ve made a lot of strides towards gender equality, most women still live a very male centered life without realizing it. i’m just asking yall to consider what YOU want seriously. you can be single for the rest of your life and still be completely fulfilled and valid!

Anonymous

#3 4w

Exactly….its ok to want those things…so long as you aren’t only doing those things just for validation….keep your standards and find someone who will grow with you and keep falling in love with the new parts of you…its valid to want those things and its valid to not want those things everyone is different so long as you aren’t only doing doing it for you

Anonymous

#5 4w

what helped me was definitely crying it out, but also hanging out with friends a lot more. you def don’t realize how much you’ve been ignoring your friends to be with your partner til you have more free time. have a movie night, go to a bar, do crafts, etc. but ALSO! the hard part for me was learning how to be alone lol. i ended up making a watchlist of all of the movies id always wanted to see and working through them. also things like going to a concert alone or going thrifting alone is fun!!

Anonymous

OP 4w

it’s definitely a learning curve. my immediate reaction to my breakup was to throw myself into different flings as rebounds bc i just wanted someone to be there, but it really wasn’t worth it in the end. i just ended up hurting good guys bc i realized i wasn’t ready to get back into another relationship and wasn’t done finding who i was. journaling is good, new makeup looks are good, new playlists. sometimes it’s really freeing to just be, yk?