Anonymous #1 7w

Can you explain that cuz he might say that’s not fair cuz his been there for me for a lot

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Anonymous OP 7w

If he needs time to himself to grow or think or whatever that’s fine and understandable but that doesn’t mean you have to put your life on pause and wait until he’s ready to come back. You should be able to go live your life during the break and then if he comes back and you want him then slay and if not then that’s not your fault

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Anonymous #2 7w

He feels like a doormat. So I will preface this by saying I think I have undiagnosed adhd, I haven’t gotten diagnosed because I’ve been out of state for the past 3 years. He feels that I can’t live up to my word as is what I want to do in the future. I wanna be a doctor and I’ve been working hard to get my degree and got my bachelors but he doesn’t like how I did things. I applied to my masters late and every fiber in me didn’t want to do it late but I didn’t know if I was gonna graduate with(1)

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Anonymous OP 7w

My bachelors, I had an issue and I had to seek special permission to graduate and I got the permission June 10, then my grandfather died June 13, not that I mourned him but he was in hospice on our house for 3 years. We had strangers taking care of him so our house was not organized and things were shoved everywhere to make a make shift room for him. We had events for a month following his death and we had to sort the house for a lot of people coming over. Then I started a job which had my grand

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Anonymous OP 7w

Father not passed, would’ve been fine but everything mixed together was overwhelming me. I have been obese since I was a child my bf told me if I didn’t lose the weight I already wanted to lose he would break up and tbh I don’t think it’s a bad request but I was spending 2 hrs in the gym daily as well at the time, I cannot say enough that I was overwhelmed okay and tired both emotionally and physically to do anything. On top of that I wanted a perfect personal statement, my document for it is 16

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Anonymous OP 7w

Pages. I have changed it so many times and re written it so many times that I just couldn’t hand it in until it was perfect cuz I got into my dream school and I was hoping to get into that school. It’s just now I don’t have financial aid cuz I applied late. I’m sorry. My bf thinks that I’m making excuses but i genuinely don’t see how I am, my life this summer was chaotic and insane. Since February btw I lost 44 lbs so I don’t want to stop the gym

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Anonymous #1 7w

It’s not like I wanna see other people but I just hate how I’m there at his convenience and a break makes me feel that way. That he doesn’t want me until he sees that I’m doing well and there isn’t “another option” I guess.

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Anonymous #3 7w

That’s what I think too, I don’t think a break is beneficial. I think that afterwords we will change and become new people and drift apart. I just know though that when the break starts I will be heartbroken and depressed. Not that I should hold him accountable for that but it’s just me personally and I don’t think I can go back to the person that caused that even if I want to later on

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Anonymous OP 7w

from reading all of this, u are clearly going through a lot but he doesn’t sound like he truly has ur back in the way that a partner should. u got into ur dream school, and all he seems to care abt is that u went abt it with a slightly different timeline? ur grandfather passed and he’s telling u to lose weight? he just doesn’t sound very supportive and as another commenter said, u dont have to put ur life on pause while this relationship is off for 6 months!

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