Girl Talk on Sidechat | My ex wants a real future with me. We have deeply unresolved problems so he wants to take my idea of couples therapy. He doesn’t want to do it tho when I say I want to remain single and open rn doing so. I’m open to therapy but not committing to him-1

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My ex wants a real future with me. We have deeply unresolved problems so he wants to take my idea of couples therapy. He doesn’t want to do it tho when I say I want to remain single and open rn doing so. I’m open to therapy but not committing to him-1

Anonymous 20w

Wow that’s a lot to unpack. U honestly might be better off single and finding yourself and exploring! You’re young and that’s ok! At college age from 20-30 u shouldn’t be getting couples counseling unless you’re married. I’d say cut your losses and make yourself happy. Also please know you’re prolly hurting the dude by leading him on so please for his sake let him find someone who’s down for long term.

Anonymous 20w

He is valid for feeling that way, but I’m also not in the mood to fully be someone’s next long term partner. And he wants to know immediately if there’s someone else so he can cut the tie and move along which I have given him all the freedom to do so for over a year. But I still want to see this resolved to the end and I think give him that clarity overall regardless bc damn he needs it. -3 end

Anonymous 20w

In the meantime I found a guy I have some kind of feelings towards but nothing related to that had come up in conversation with him. My ex says he wouldn’t do this fearing I find someone else during it and it is a ‘waste’ but I do want our issues helped to resolve or cut the ties. Idk about the future of my love life and if I find someone I make a call to end it with one of them. -2

Anonymous 20w

he should go do therapy on his own. couples therapy with someone you used to date is not a good way to actually work on your issues and it’s not your responsibility to fix his shit

Anonymous

#1 20w

We were planning long term, probably marriage. He just never treated me right in the midst of his own issues where he should have taken the time to not continue dating at all- but I was genuinely naive then. I have learned my lessons and even when we tried agaij he never showed me the chnages I wanted to see. Like treating me with appreciation and a date would be cool. He was penniless and yesr after yesr it kept getting worse in all aspects of his life. I had to leave for myself

Anonymous

OP 20w

I’m happy you got out! You deserve to have someone spoil u and take you on dates. And don’t ever let someone hold u back from that. A solid future is built on solid groundwork!

Anonymous

#1 20w

The ex wanted to do so now that after a year apart he got a lot of his shit together and by the end of it all being neglected and harboring negative feelings about everything. Still am but peacefully have out it behind me and try to never let it bring me down again. I emotionally cheated, not even with a person. But a crush on a person. And he demanded full honesty before “trying” to show me how I want to be treated, yet I didn’t trust him enough to not blow up, or then manage my social life. 🤧

Anonymous

OP 20w

These problems go deep. It’s like a roadblock for both us and I can put it all behind me, and I have. He is the one who consistently needs more clarity or more reason. He doesn’t let that past go to continue trying again for smth New.

Anonymous

OP 20w

I can tell your a very nice person who cares a lot about others feelings. But this seems to just be straining the both of u. Ik he wants reassurance but the more u speak to him the more he honestly thinks he has a chance. I’d honestly just cut ties and move on even if it rlly hurts bc this is just prolonging pain.