Anonymous #2 22w

I think it’s okay to not want those things for yourself but if she feels so strongly about that why be friends with people whose values are different and then shame them for it?

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Anonymous #2 22w

I don’t want kids either, I’m celibate as well, and I also do critique heteronormativity within the context of relationships but I’m not going to shame someone who doesn’t live like that? It’s just a different in values and I would choose friends who felt somewhat similar

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Anonymous #3 22w

idk why she does what she does bc i don’t know her and i don’t know the full story. op could (and should tbh) do the same thing and let the friendship go if they aren’t happy

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Anonymous #2 22w

I guess I just think it’s weird to call her cool when she’s treating her friend like that? Choosing to be friends with someone is voluntary. At a certain point if their lifestyle decisions bother you it’s up to you to distance yourself or cut the connection, esp if your shaming them for it

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Anonymous #3 22w

again we don’t know the full story. in my personal experience my former friends who want to get married/have kids/etc have all pressured me and made comments trying to get me to want that wayyy before i ever started saying anything back. i also think it goes both ways, if you’re not feel supported by your friend it’s up to you to either communicate that or end the friendship

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Anonymous #2 22w

I mean fair enough but if it’s getting to the point of shaming or attacking then it’s probably not a friendship worth keeping anyway. There’s gonna ppl who judge your lifestyle choices regardless of what you do

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Anonymous #2 21w

She’s moving so I might just let the friendship fizzle out. It’s not something that I want to purposefully unfriend her over because it’s a recent thing and it’s occasional if that makes sense. It’s weird of you to call her cool when she is judging and bullying me over my lifestyle choices. There is nothing cool about that. I don’t pressure her or anyone to get married or have kids, bc that’s fucking crazy to do. She will just occasionally make comments or send me reels that just don’t sit right

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Anonymous #4 21w

Next time it comes up I’ll definitely mention it. I think an issue is she just doesn’t have a filter in general with anything, she speaks her mind even though a lot of what she says of offputting or offensive and she knows it’s a problem. It’s a work in progress honestly

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Anonymous OP 21w

is offputting or offensive* not of

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