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how do yall get over people? ill be fine for a few weeks/months by doing things to distract myself and then smth will almost “trigger” me and make me obsess over him again. help!
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Anonymous 2w

time

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Anonymous 2w

literally just time. for the first couple days after, i was fine but literally like a week later i was a complete mess. even just a quick flashback or a slightly sad song was enough to ruin my day and get me to start crying again. but now im fine. my mind still goes to him sometimes but i can think about him without bursting into tears

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Anonymous 2w

everyone saying time is right, but also journaling and self reflection. since it’s been over a year and it was a situationship, i think a lot of your pain has less to do with missing him as an actual person, and more to do with your relationship with yourself. when my situationship ended it felt so bad because i spent so long trying to prove my worth and i couldn’t. so it was a hit to my ego. i had to realize him not “choosing” me didn’t matter, because he didn’t matter in my life anymore

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Anonymous 2w

For me I try to make myself busy and hang out with friends even if I’m sad. I of course allow a mourning period but then I keep busy. That’s just me tho

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 2w

how long? it has been a little over a year since he ended things and im still really sad and kinda angry but overall hurt.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

it took about a month, but it was my first relationship and we only dated for a month and a half so that definitely played a part.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 2w

for me, we never dated we just fucked around and he was the first guy id ever i guess had any sort of relationship with although it wasn’t romantic. im so sad. i feel like i need to get my brain completely rewired to erase all the memories of him.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

that’s exactly how i felt too. it felt like my world was ending and wished that i had never met him and i honestly contemplated just being single for the rest of my life so i didn’t have to experience that again. but it really just takes time. let yourself be sad, don’t try to suppress your emotions but also don’t let it consume you. try therapy or talking it out with someone

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