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Girl Talk 3d

does anybody else relate to being considered the boring friend? i’ve always been quiet, introverted, and a homebody. around certain friends, they make feel boring because i don’t like to drink and party like they do.

Anonymous 3d

and i don’t have any of the typical experiences of most people in their twenties(i’m 21 btw). i never dated or even been in a talking stage. i never had sex. so when im talking to people around my age or younger with these experiences, i feel behind. i don’t necessarily feel bad about it but i just feel i dont have anything to add to conversations. also, it just leads to people seeing me as this super innocent person with hardly any friends. i’m just curious if anyone else feels this way.

Anonymous 3d

Yes. Im 23, I got into alcohol and became quite dependent on it in social environments because it’s the only time I felt people liked me. I’ve tried stopping and now I’m told I’m not myself anymore. It’s really exhausting. I have now had relationships, I’ve had sex. People still talk to me as if I’m an innocent little girl. Like I don’t know anything about the world. Because my personality is quiet. And it’s tiring. I know it’s not the exact same experience as yours but I feel some similarity.

Anonymous 3d

Yes and it sucks and i dont know how to fix myself. Im trying anxiety medication now to hopefully be more outgoing/less anxious socially but it hasnt been working

Anonymous 3d

I can relate. I wouldn’t consider myself boring because I do have hobbies and interested but I don’t drink, smoke, or party either and sometimes I feel like ppl feel that way. But I just stopped caring, I try to find ppl who are similar in that regard to me and invest my energy into developing skills or things I like/care about

Anonymous 3d

drinking and smoking are not hobbies, theyre just social lube. you don't need to use them if you don't want to. just develop your own interests and hobbies and learn how to talk about them to people. i have been sober at parties but having a good time listening and being apart of cool conversations.

Anonymous

#1 3d

thank you for sharing! i’ve always had this feeling even when i was in high school. it’s definitely tiring and makes me feel like the odd one

Anonymous

OP 3d

Girllll same. I know I’m not boring I’m actually super fun when I’m close with someone. I just don’t feel the need to drink or party hard in order to have fun yk

Anonymous

OP 3d

And also I relate I haven’t had many of the typical experiences either. Never dated or had sex or anything like that. And not into alcohol or partying either.

Anonymous

OP 3d

I’m 20 btw

Anonymous

#2 3d

i’m the same way! i can be fun when im around people i genuinely feel comfortable with. it’s nice to see that im not alone.

Anonymous

#4 3d

I’ve been trying to learn how to do makeup and style my hair better this summer as like a little side quest

Anonymous

#3 3d

i feel you! i think going to a small college helped me out a lot. i was able to build relationships with people because of how small the campus was. unfortunately, since i graduated i don’t have the convenience of community offered anymore so it feels im back to square one. i would say just be patient with yourself. sometimes you just have to force yourself to get out there. it’s definitely easier said than done.

Anonymous

#4 3d

i feel you! it usually doesn’t bother me but sometimes i just get in my feels. its just so hard finding people with the same interests as you especially living in a small town. its even harder since i graduated from college.

Anonymous

OP 3d

I definitely get that! Ive had a couple friends who never really drank/smoked/partied but then started to do it more. Nothing wrong with that but I think I felt kinda left behind. I think we just need more third spaces that aren’t school or like work related but just like fun lowkey things

Anonymous

#4 3d

i agree! in my town, there’s literally nothing to do outside of partying.

Anonymous

OP 3d

That’s so interesting as someone who’s grown up in a smaller town but now lives in a bigger city for college. Sometimes I found success with going to community events, usually I find them through instagram. Like farmers markets, festivals and stuff. Sometimes you can find ppl with similar interests too?

Anonymous

OP 3d

Just wish I wasn’t broke so I could other stuff. I’ve always wanted to get a ceramics studio membership or take ballet classes or something

Anonymous

OP 3d

Yesss girl

Anonymous

#5 3d

idk you might wanna experiment with stuff when you're older and protip older people have better drugs. alcohol is lame. uhhhh yeah just be yourself youll be fine